My wife left me a few months back. Along with a note, she left her wedding band and engagement ring. We're now going through divorce. Am I allowed to sell the engagement ring, or does it still technically belong to her?? The fact that she left it behind tells me that she doesn't want it. Of all the other things she wants, the ring hasn't come up. What would you do???
Being that she was out of work (and still is), I paid for the entire wedding myself. Still paying for it three years later. I feel that my selling the ring would be part of her "share" that I never got.
2007-01-12 05:21:02 · 48 answers · asked by curious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do what you will.
2007-01-12 05:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sell it. When a woman is given an engagement/wedding ring, it is a gift from her husband which is understood to go with the marriage. When the engagement/marriage is over, the rings should be offered back.
By the way, the classy thing to do (and maybe a little spiteful) would be to FedEx your ring to her. More than likely, the engagement ring is worth the most though.
2007-01-12 05:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't sell her ring until after the divorce because by law that ring is consider a gift from you to her so if she wanted to.... if you sold that ring and she bring that ring up in court or to anyone then you'll have to pay her the money for the ring. I know the law sucks big time but i know where you at cause my parents are going through a divorce after 29 yrs of being together. good luck
2007-01-12 05:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen a lot of divorces turn ugly with each party looking for some leverage on the other person. You don't want her to be able to potentially use the fact that you sold her rings to come out in a way that makes you look bad in front of a judge so don't sell them.....yet.
You should keep the rings and the note together for now (don't bring them up to anyone) and you may be able to use them as leverage at some point. If they never come up and she never asks for them back then sell them. You have nothing to lose by waiting but selling could bite you in the a55.
2007-01-12 05:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by Gabriel D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Technically the ring is hers and became her permanently the day she said "I do". Keep it until after the divorce is final if she doesn't ask for it by then, and its not awarded to her in the divorce settlement sell it. If you sell it before the divorce is final and its awarded to her and you do not have it you could be required to pay her cash money the value of the rings so she can purchase new ones.
2007-01-12 05:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by **Damn its cold up here** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a women breaks off an engagement, the ring belongs to the man, so I would assume its the same if you were married.
2007-01-12 07:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by Bridget W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I look at it.. that ring was part of the "contract" to be married, if shes backing out of it, shes breaking the deal and the ring is all yours. If she left it behind, she should not expect it back.
2007-01-12 05:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can afford to pay the wedding step at a time, then dont make that ring as her share of payment, it was past, whats important is now, she dont have a job, and as a person(you) and since you two shared laughs once upon a time, i think it would be helpful for her if you give her the ring as your help for her this present moment in her life knowing that she dont have a job, you will do that as a help like you want to help other of your relative, its up to her whatever she will do in her life now since you will be divorced anyway, you do that to help and when you help you dont expect things in return, if she will do bad something about the ring, its up to her, whats important is your motive, a motive to help her and a motive of a good heart of a good man.
2007-01-12 05:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by blue violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the wedding rings are considered to be gifts. If you want to sell it try to get it awarded to you in the divorce.
2007-01-12 05:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have children? If not, you can probably sell it but the terms of the divorce are probably dictating things you have to declare, etc.
If you have children, it would be more appropriate to save those rings. They will mean something to them some day because they represent the time "mom" and "dad" spent together that created them.
2007-01-12 05:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are harboring hope that she will return to you then hang onto it. Her leaving it there for you was her way of saying she was done, and not coming back. What she left there when she left has become yours. You have to decide what you feel will best qualm the feelings you have about the entire situation in your life right now.
2007-01-12 05:27:46 · answer #11 · answered by dressmakerus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋