2007-01-12 05:18:51 · 11 answers · asked by CallaLillie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was caught having multiple affairs by my wife.
I dropped to me knees, crying, begging for forgiveness, and promising never to do that again, and I kept that promise.
We also went to marriage counseling, and individual counseling. I also saw a psychiatrist, took meds, and attended a 12-Step program for sex addiction.
I had to regain my wife's trust. I turned over all of my credit cards, bank accounts, my cell phone, and my checks to my wife. She handled all of my finances. I had to make an accounting of all of my time, and I had to allow my wife to inspect my computer and office unannounced. It was tough, and maybe a little extreme, but necessary.
It wasn't easy. We had to work out a lot of issues, anger, sadness, resentment. We communicated openly. We had a lot of ups and downs, but we got through it.
2007-01-12 05:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being friends is the best way to go in a marriage...If you're not friends first, it won't work...Space given to your spouse is the next thing to preserve the marriage...My wife and I broke up for two years while we were going out and i was devestated, we had been friends since high school...FRIENDS ONLY ! We fell inlove because we played together and did all kinds of stuff together before sleeping with one another.. When she decided to leave me I remained faithful and hoped she'd be back and she did come back..We give each other time alone and we share all responsibilities of life....Bills, house cleaning, cooking and so on.
I hope this helps...
2007-01-12 05:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by marc r p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me begin by saying marriage is a constant struggle, a never-ending work in progress. I often tell my husband that "it's me and him against the world" and it most certainly feels that way. If you are not trying to battle other people who are trying to interfere in your relationship, you're battling against financial pressures, work pressures, home pressures and the list goes on and on. My husband and I have gone through our own significant issues -- cheating and lying on his part, an emotional affair and thoughts of divorce on my part. In the end, we are best freinds and we recognize we are humans and are really careful not expect perfrection from one another. Even in our most critical time, our marriage was able to survive with care, understanding, love, and lots and lots of talking. With each battle won, the stronger and wiser we've gotten.
2007-01-12 06:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infertility issues...we will always be working to overcome it. It helps to have open communication at all times. I tell him when I'm insecure or having a bad day and he will listen to me. He tells me when something sad happens at work and I will comfort him.
Jealousy issues...I get jealous of younger women because they can have babies and I can't. My husband asked me "What can we do to avoid you getting jealous?" I thought about it and told him that it would help if he became more affectionate when we were out in public.
2007-01-12 05:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have been through almost everything. Poverty, mental illness, infidelity, substance abuse, poor communication.
We just decided that we decided to do this thing in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, 'til death do we part.
It aint all easy or fun. It won't be with anyone. At the end of the day, I have to be able to live with myself. Leaving my husband and starting over won't make that happen.
Commitment. That's the key.
2007-01-12 05:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by Faith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost too lots of those who i love. i don't believe of the "studies" i have been by are hardships that i'm able to easily triumph over. The discomfort will be with me continuously yet i guess i have carried out extraordinarily nicely to settle for what i'm able to't replace. and that is the biggest section. Time heals... So i'm letting it do its paintings at the same time as I take exhilaration in my skill to smile and carry decrease back tears at the same time as i'm hurting. it is okay.
2016-12-02 04:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my husband was working 30miles away, a girl started talking to him, and flirting with him, and ofcourse he liked it. They saw each other for about 4 months. I had pushed him away after we had our first son and all he wanted was someone to talk to. Once he wanted to call if off, she kept calling until we were face to face and my husband chose me and left with me. It took time to trust him again and now we're still together. Now my oldest son is going to be 18 and we're still happily married.
2007-01-12 05:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by bluemist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would be the blending of two families with no money. My husband wanted to push the kids to be friends- I said to let them work it out themselves- he pushed and pushed them into possibly killing each other, when his son pushed my son and he landed with his head hitting a bike pedal. After that- he let them be and things worked out better. It was a gradual process the more times he saw that I was right in my thinking, the more he trusted my decisions.
2007-01-12 05:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by northville 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy.. staying faithful and honest.
2007-01-12 05:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication. i am in iraq and we talk everyday. even tough problems.
2007-01-12 05:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by young grown man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋