My mother always told me if a man really loved you and you are no longer together, he will always love the children you had together and if he didn't love you, he couldn't care less for them. Is this true?
2007-01-12 05:16:15 · 10 answers · asked by Lucci 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Chidren have nothing to due with the problems that the Parents have. My daughter's father adored me when we where together, yet, he showed no love for our child and has no interest in spending any time with her, but he will make it a point to come around and try to spend time with me.
Yet my brother can't stand the mother of his children but he bends over backwards to spend as much time as possible with his kids, because as he will always tell people, my girls are the reason why I breath, without them I have no reason to live.
You can never tell how a man will be with his children by the way he acts with the mother. Some men are meant to be fathers and others are only meant to be sperm donors.
Every man has the ability to father a child, but it takes a Daddy to raise a child.
2007-01-12 05:37:45 · answer #1 · answered by cubangoddess73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would say, it totally depends on the man, and what kind of person he is...and what he thinks, love is.
My ex-husband always, 'til this day, says he loves and misses his children. When we were together, he did not pay that much attention to them, e.g., he would go on business trips, call me, tell me how much he missed me, but forget to ask about the kids (he'd be gone for a month or 2). Only, when we had a fight or when we started to break up, was he really into the kids, promising them anything.
We got divorced almost a year ago, he has not payed any child support, not talked or seen the kids (my son, who is 19, called him the other day - he said 'hi, I miss you' etc - my son has not heard from him since) since then...so you tell me??? So, this would coorberate what your mom says. It's just in this one ccase, though...not every man is like that...
2007-01-12 13:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all !
Did your father leave you when you were younger? If so, then I think your mother was saying that just to make you feel bad about your Dad.
When a relationship ends and there are children involved then the man will still love his children - love is not like a tap, you cannot just turn it on and off to suit !
2007-01-12 13:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by kamirsam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, that isn't true. The way a REAL man feels about his children's mother should have no effect on his love for his children.
2007-01-12 13:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter? Why not find out for yourself? Your mother may or may not be right.
On the flipside if you under your moms roof and your father is doing drugs, raising chaos between people, or violent better not lie to yourself it will only prolong the pain and could render you not feeling very good. Not to mention ruin the relationship between you and your mother if mean spirited behavior is involved.
2007-01-12 13:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True to a certain extend. When divorce occurs, it means husband and wife are not compatible. But, husband or wife will still love the children. That is the reason why they fight for custody.
2007-01-12 13:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by Carl R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes in someway it is true i have a son that i had with a guy who was not totally in love with me because he cheated and cheated so when i broke it off i figured he would continue to be in his sons life and my son is 12 now and his father does see him 2-3 times a year he has never came to not one of his birthdays. so i think there is a lot of truth in what your mother has said .
2007-01-12 13:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's total nonsense. He will love his children because they are his children. It has nothing to do with their mother.
2007-01-12 13:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and my mother tell me the that determinated the way you will love you marriage life.
2007-01-12 13:49:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not at all.... But to me if he really loves and cherishes you and your marriage the love for the children will be strong and committed as well......
2007-01-12 13:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋