I Have Never had a best friend?

Question

i know this sounds sad, but i had a few friends but not a proper best friend, to hang out with, and hang 2gether etc
i am 17 .i have social anexity and derpression so its very hard for me to meet people.
how did you meet your best friend?
and what is the best place you have met people? websites? etc?

Answer 1

you are lucky they are nothing but a nuisance . I aint got no friends , just people I know

Answer 2

I can say that I've had two best friends in my life. One, I met at school quite by accident and we hit it off very well. My other best friend (the one who followed after my first best friend's death) and I met at a place of employment. The good thing about not having a best friend is that it does not hurt as much when they either die or when the friendship ends (which is akin to death, in my book).

I am going to let you in on a big secret in life though: Don't look for a best friend. Look for a few close friends and several, if not many casual friends. When you have this type of support system, your world does not fall apart if you and one friend (like a best friend) have a fight and end the friendship. If a best friend comes up, hold on to her, but don't go look for her and if you have one, don't hold on to her too tightly.

School or work are probably two of my best places to meet potential friends.

Good luck to you, dear.

Answer 3

My best friend & I have been friends since I was 1 & she was 2. So I guess I was pretty lucky. One thing I did to meet people is...I joined a club. You will find people with the same intrests as you. There are tons of groups out there that could be the one for you. I hope this helps. Good luck with finding a true best friend.

Answer 4

I think it's far better to have a group of friends rather than one best friend, since this adds variety and interest. Best friends can sometimes become too claustrophobic and if you have a falling-out with one, it really is disastrous.
I'd aim to meet as many people as possible via social groups, school or work outings, etc., and build up a wide social circle. The key, however, to getting people to like you is to LISTEN! Don't talk too much, but ask people lots of questions about themselves. People love to talk about themselves and are flattered ... so ask people about their interests, hobbies, etc. Appear interested. They'll remember you as a nice person and take you to their hearts much quicker.
And out of this group of people you will find a few that are closer - you don't just need to have one BEST friend but a group of CLOSE friends is just as brilliant.
Good luck

Answer 5

Try not to let it get you down and think of the people who are there in your life, including family. Best friends (doesn't have to be just one of them) are great but you need your other friends too. I know it will be difficult at first but if you want to hang out with people your best bet is to do things in person - are there classes, groups (e.g. environmental or issue-based) or voluntary work that you can do? Do stuff that you're interested in, be relaxed about things and friendly with everyone, and it will come. Maybe you should also consider how you act towards people? Don't be excessively forceful/eager with people you haven't known long (it may take time to get to know them really well). it will happen though! x

Answer 6

People come and go throughout your life so don't worry about best friends too much. If you want to meet people you need to get out there, all of my good friends I have met through uni and various clubs I went to when I was younger (pony club/drama club). The Internet is no way to make true good friends to hang out with, you need to meet people in person and best friends take years to make they are just the friends that have stuck around that long.

Answer 7

I was like you when I was that age - I did not have a proper best friend, so I can identify with you. But through time I formed friendships with various people (through school,work, college). I have a few close good friends now which is better than one best friend, and like some things you have to work at friendships. Just be yourself and I am sure you will be ok.I know it seems hard but I promise it will get better, keep your chin up. If you want to talk just drop me a line

Answer 8

I met my first best friend in kindergarten, so we kinda grew up together. My other three best friends I met through singing in a group at church. Those three women don't know each other, and the one man in the group knows all of us, and they all know me. I don't keep in touch as much as I'd like, but I still consider them best friends.

What you can do to become a friend is be a friend to someone else first. Your age doesn't matter, it's your attitude that matters. You've got to get out of being socially anxious and depressed about it. Be friendly towards people, and they will gravitate towards you.

You could start at the grocery store; ask someone to reach up and get a box or can off a high shelf for you, then you can start a conversation that way; or you can start a conversation in the check-out line. Good luck.

Answer 9

I had this problem when i was a teenager, and i met my best friend when i was 23, and he ended up being my husband! But you shouldn't feel like this at your young age, you should speak to someone you trust, don't be frightened. Talk to your doctor, they won't look down on you, they've dealt with this problem lots of time before. I think teenagers have a huge problem with trying to be themselves as there is this big image to be cool or live up to something you're not. I hope you feel better soon x

Answer 10

i had a best-estest friend who was more than a friend to me. She was more than a sister. one day she just decided she didn't like me anymore. The friendship was worth it even though it ended.
I suggest u to go to places where there are many ppl to talk to, college? youth clubs? just any place u think ppl ure age hang out.
then u shouldn't have a depressed attitude. and everytime someone talks to you, dnt show them ure sadness. Always remember to smile like you mean it and try to be interested in what they are saying.
if no one approaches u, try to appraoch them by starting with random conversation about where u are and what u do. find similarities to talk about.

remember though, that true friends co not grow on trees. They are precious and friendships is Holy in every sense of the word!

Answer 11

Well you can't just find somebody to be your best friend. A best friend knows you like you know your self which means it takes time to grow that kind of a friendship. Also I find it easier to make good friends if they share common interests with you. Such as hobbies,and sports you like.

Just hang out at hang outs or cafes that you like and you may just stumble upon a new friend.