Can I divorce my husband who lies to me all the time and treats me less than a human being and after he 'sleeps' w/me after 2 months of ignoring then a few minutes after he's done he goes to work on his computer cuz he's self employed then i wake up at 4 am to see why he's not in bed and i find him watchin p*** and m********. Isnt htat a a form of adultery and should i diovrce him b/c his heart is turned to stone? CHRISTIAN answers only please. if u don't like christians please do not answer.thanks. we have no kids, 2 yr aniv is coming up :(
2007-01-12 05:03:23 · 25 answers · asked by ccmarket1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry but no that is not considered adultry...adultry is when someone who is married has sexual intercourse with another who is not the spouse
2007-01-12 05:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by sunbun 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
If your husband is watching porn, he has already committed adultery in his heart; read Matthew 5:27-28. As for the other stuff, his ignoring you and treating you badly, that's not a good thing to be doing in a marriage; read Colossians 3:19.
It sounds like you and your husband need some serious marital counseling. If you want to fight for your marriage, you both need to go and get some counseling with your minister or another reputable marriage therapist. Give it a good try, six months or more, at least a year, but if that doesn't work, then you should start looking for a good divorce lawyer. No one should be miserable in a marriage. Good luck.
2007-01-12 05:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you two are 100% Christians and follow the word and work of God then I would suggest getting counseling from your Pastor or any other marriage counselor. It has been said that if a man sees a woman, other than his wife, with lust in his heart that is committing adultery. The bible has many references to this issue. Some people don't let it get to them because for many adultery is when a man or woman goes and sleeps with someone else, however devoted Christians see this more detailed.
2007-01-12 05:15:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am a Christian and yes it is.... It is a sin and causes adulterous thoughs and there is a verse in Matthew that says if you look at a woman to lust after here that you already have committed adultery in your heart.... This is not popular but true and talk with your pastor about this and see what he says.... Also pray about it and see how God answers you and what HE has to say to you about it.... Talk with your husband and see how he feels and by the way is he a Christian like you are? Seek counseling and help for you marriage and I am here to talk if need be.... Try everything you can to make the marriage work and if it still is not salvagable then yes by all means seperate.
2007-01-12 05:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
From a Biblical perspective, it is considered adultery. Divorce is also considered a sin (equal to adultery) in the eyes of God.
What is going on with you husband sound like compulsive sexual disorder. Help is possible if he is willing to get help. There is a book you can read to learn more about this or just do a google search for "sexual addiction."
Was your husband abused as a child or was he exposed to deviant sexual behaviour? Feel free to email me if you want to learn more.
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2007-01-12 05:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by Bill G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get into counseling right away. If your husband isn't interested in counseling, then you go to counseling alone. I would leave him before things get worse. After only two years and you are this unhappy, imagine what it would be like if it keeps progressing for the next 10 or 20 years. You might be able to get an annulment if you're catholic. God wants marriage to be a serious commitment and not to be treated as a disposable relationship, but he never meant for his children to live unhappy lives. Talk to your pastor or priest, they will help to guide you.
2007-01-12 05:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Adultery?? I don't know. I do believe, though, that in marriage those kind of sexual feelings are to be kept sacred between a husband and a wife. I would feel betrayed and hurt, especially if the relationship is being neglected and he is turning elsewhere to solve his problems with intimacy. If he knows that this hurts you and it's seriously affecting the relationship, if he loved and respected you he would stop.
2007-01-12 07:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by gg55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think porn is legally considered adultery, although I disprove of it. I don't like it either. If my husband is turned on by watching another woman in a sexual act, and then comes to me to "finish" the job---- He knows I won't bother. My husband used to be a fan of porn when I first met him, but he is very respectful of my viewpoints and stopped watching it. He also flattered me in saying "he doesn't need that anymore now that he has me." I'm very lucky and if I were you, I'd stand up to your husband, let him know you will not tolerate this any longer. I know it's tough, but move out if you can. If he can't love you for the beautiful person you are, then move on. There's more to marriage than sex- it's only the tip of the ice-burg; it's the icing on the cake.
2007-01-12 05:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ok; this is going to sound odd but divorce him just because of how he treats you!!! god wants you to be happy and after treating you like that you deserve better. as far as porn... it's adultry IF he's thinking of the women he saw; but if things were right w/ you and he watching it and he dosen't see them but you and it makes him hot for you and you only than it's really not adultry. because he has you in mind. don't worry about the aniv. you can do better!!!! and besides that(i speak from experience on this one) better to get divorced now than put the kids you could have through a painful divorce!
2007-01-12 05:16:08 · answer #9 · answered by i hate undies! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The Bible contains mild injunctions against masturbation, but it does not equate it with adultery. Viewing porn is not adultery because it does not include actual interaction with another human being. You, on the other hand, promised before God to cleave to your husband for better or worse until death. I figure God thinks much more poorly of someone who breaks a promise to Him than of someone who is gratifying a natural bodily function God gave to human beings. I am a Christian. "What God has joined together, let no man put asunder."
2007-01-12 05:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-02-12 09:29:18 · answer #11 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋