2007-01-12 05:01:23 · 21 answers · asked by david v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a babysitter. Go out for dinner and have time together.
2007-01-12 05:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by Lotus 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2007-01-12 13:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Like others have said before, find a reliable babysitter for nights out and make sure your kids have a bedtime that you stick to.
If you are looking to have some more adult time and have your parents around maybe they could take them overnight from time to time. Kids and grandparents love spending time together. If not, you could try what some friends of mine did. One weekend a month one set of parents would have the others kids. Thus every other month one couple got some real adult time together.
2007-01-12 13:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a mom of two very active kids. You need to schedule time just like soccer practice, ballet and PTA meetings. Sometimes we both blow off work just to be together while the kids are in school. (Those days are the best) You may not have alot of time together but you can still let her know you are thinking of her. Little presents, sticky notes and quick phone calls can do wonders. Good Luck
2007-01-12 13:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by content26 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Depending on how old your kids are there are ways. If they are younger there is nothing wrong with putting them in there room with a little snack and a movie. If they are a little older let them go to a friends house to play. Get some freinds with kids. So you guys can trade time.
One of things I do If we have had a season of missing each other. I plan to wear my kids out all day. I get them up early and we either clean the house in the morning, or we go shopping.then we go outside and play. i have them do races bike races, running races, The plan is to wear them out not yourself so that after dinner they take warm baths or showers. By then they are so tired they falling a sleep in your arms. The key is to not let them take long naps during the day.My kids usually go to sleep early after that and my husband and I have 2 extra hours together. It's not alot but it is a start. Don't feel guilty for leaving you kids with someone. They need to see you guys are keeping love for one another alive. You all deserve it.
2007-01-12 13:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I have the same problem, but with 3 kids. Once in a while, my Dad will take the kids out to the movies or for ice cream. This is great, because he enjoys the kids and it enables my husband and I time alone, for just- no int eruptions. I suggest you ask your family and or friends if they could do this for you. You could also tell them you'll take turns with the favour to enable them to have "grown up time" too.
2007-01-12 13:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My friend has the same problem. So he just drives them over to grandma's house like once or twice a year at night and then goes to the casino or who knows where else for the rest of the night with his wife. Only if the kids like grandma though. And if she likes them. lol. Hope that helps.
2007-01-12 13:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by gingi_01 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Grab any two seconds you can. What we do is after the kids are tucked in bed, we have our time every night and then go to sleep. It is a wonderful way to end the day and has worked wonderful for us.
2007-01-12 13:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
hire a baby sitter. that is the only way. you and your wife can make a date night like on a friday or saturday. like maybe once or twice a month. as your children grow older...teach them how to look after themselves and to care for themselves so that you don't have to rely on a babysitter each time you and your wife want to go out
2007-01-12 13:42:12 · answer #9 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't they have a bedtime? If you want to go out for an evening...hire a sitter. There are lots of ways to hide from the kids!
2007-01-12 13:05:47 · answer #10 · answered by Bev 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No big deal. Makes u appreciate the times u can get together. I'm sure you're just horny and that it's not really time you want to spend with your wife....be honest, you wanna screw and the kids are being c*ck-blockers.
2007-01-12 14:35:50 · answer #11 · answered by Nobody Special 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋