2007-01-12 04:40:22 · 29 answers · asked by dreamgrl_850 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Only you and your husband can decide if it is too soon. Sit down and discuss it and list all pros and cons. That way there are no suprises with how you each feel.
2007-01-12 04:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby changes anything. I say - try being just married the first year and do things that you can't do while being preggo/having an infant. Go on fun vacations and all that...once you are pregnant then vacations are really no fun...you don't feel well...others are drinking and having a good time and you can't (if you enjoy a drink usually). I go married young (almost 22) and had my first on our 2nd wedding anniversary. I had my 3rd at 29...and we are done. The timing worked out good...we did travel and enjoy each other our first year married and right now I really do miss some of the cool stuff we did...but being 30 and done is also a good feeling...we can move onto the next stage of life.
Kids really do change it all...and they make a marriage hard-work because babies take so much attention. It also does create financial strain so taking a year ahead of time to also stash some money away to allow you to stay home with a baby is a great plan.
2007-01-12 04:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by Benjimina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too young.
But the things to think about are money, housing, and future.
Are you and your husband done travelling? Going out together all the time?
Im 23 and want to have kids at some point, but I need to be sure im done seeing the world so freely. I like to just leave the country for awhile and stuff, and I obviously couldnt do that with a baby.
Also - money. Can you and your hubby afford it right now? You both make enough money to support a baby?
The next - housing. Do you have a big enough place right now? do you live in a one bedroom apartment or two bedroom place?
I wouldnt have a baby unless living in a place where the baby can have her own room. Otherwise, the baby is in mom and dads room and that makes for marital stress (less sex, less sleep, baby stuff all over the adults room)
I think if you have enough money, are done travelling all the time, partying whenever you want and have a big enough house (and youre BOTH ready!) then go for it girl!!
Have fun and good luck
2007-01-12 04:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're concerned about your age..its just a number. People mature at different ages..some people that are 22 aren't ready to be parents, but others could be the better parents than people double their age. If you feel its the right time, and he feels its the right time, you should go for it. Don't listen to what other people say, and do what your heart tells you. I've been married for almost a year, and people have been asking me when we're going to have a baby since the day we got married! Although, we're trying for a baby, I know people in the same boat that want to wait for 2 years before having a baby..its all relative and different for everyone. If you aren't sure, don't start trying though..enjoy your marriage and a baby will come when you two are ready. Good Luck!!
2007-01-12 04:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by JKlein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 22 almost 23 and have been married for almost 3 years. I have a three month old daughter and she is wonderful, but I'm glad that I waited until we were at least two years married. I really wanted to get pregnant when we first got married, but then I babysat someone's baby for about a month and decided that I needed more time alone with my husband. You can always add more kids but you can't take away.
2007-01-12 07:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by Brandie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
23, married 5 months, 1 month pregnant and freaking out a little. We are both very excited about the baby but I'm still getting used to the idea of stretch marks and all the other changes to come. Read "The Girlfriends Guide to Pregnancy" and see if you're ready to accept all that.
2007-01-12 04:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by Meems 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still very young. If you are positive you are with your one and only, then go for it, but remember, you are young, and will hopefully have plenty of time. I started having kids at 32 and have 2 now....I don't regret the time I had with just me and my husband, because when we got married at 24, we were still kids ourselves and enjoyed things that if we had kids we would never have had a chance to do. I think you have plenty of time...but it is your decision....what is priorty to you....a family now, or experencing your youth without the responsibility of children.?..it is all in what you want. Think long and hard before you commit to kids...they are a lot of work and once you have them, that's it...I love my kids dearly and wouldn't change a thing, but I am so glad I waited to have them in my 30's. They are keeping me young.
2007-01-12 05:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by j9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No thats the perfect age, your thinking about the perfect time to have a baby, if you had the baby too soon youd go nuts beacuse youd be mad at yourself that yo cant go out anymore and stuff like that. My moms sister went through the same thing, she had her first kid when she was 20 and now shes going insane that she cant go to clubs or travel with her husband. So your age is perfect.
2007-01-12 04:56:33 · answer #8 · answered by sexiaga6969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree my hubby and I are the same age and have been trying for about 6 months, we have been married a year and a half. I wanted to way before but dad to be wanted to wait. I am glad that I waited until he was ready cause now he is sooo excited,sometimes i think he is more exited than me and he is really involved, which is what you want. But i do want to warn you they say the first year of marriage is the hardest for a reason...make sure you have worked out the major stuff...budget, religion, family (yours and his), routine ect...happy baby making......and remember that you might not get pregnant right away..dont let it discourage you, ecspecially if you are currently on BC, it takes awahile to get out of your system,....
2007-01-12 04:46:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not too soon. No one is ever actually fully prepared for what being a parent brings. So its up to u and your husband weather or not u want a child or not. Children are a blessing, and if u and your husband love each other, then when u have a baby shouldnt matter, itll be your love child!
2007-01-12 04:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been married for a year a and a half and I am 21 and my husband is 23 and we are trying for a baby.
Have yall had enough alone time? We were together for 5 years prior so we have.
Just discuss everything between you guys.
Good luck
2007-01-12 04:46:04 · answer #11 · answered by princesandy2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋