Does this happen to anyone else? I walk into the room and my 7-month-old baby smiles most of the time but when my husband enters the room my baby goes crazy - smiling, laughing, waving his arms.
We both work full time but I do most of the child care just because I am home earlier and spend more time with him. I cuddle him, kiss him, read to him, sing to him, laugh with him, feed him, diaper him, play peek-a-boo and pat-a-cake...you get the point. We really have a great time together. My husband IS very good with the baby but just doesn't have a ton of time to spend with him because of his work schedule.
It's certainly not a competition and I'm thrilled that he loves his dad so much but I am just wondering why I don't get the same reception from my baby as my husband and I'm the one doing 90% of the parenting. Is my baby already taking me for granted?? (ha, ha...is that ridiculous?)
2007-01-12 04:21:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Your baby has already developed a very good relationship with you. He knows already that mom will always take good care of him and be there for him. He doesn't feel the need to put on a show for you because you are going to shower him with attention anyway.
Boys also do have a special "active" relationship with dad. They know mom gives great cuddles but nobody wrestles like a dad. So this may just also be his testorone giving him cues that its "boys" time and time to get rowdy. Give it a few months and you will be telling both of the "Boys..time to settle down!"
Also as he gets older he will go through a separation anxiety stage where you will find out just how glued to you he may be. He does love you and he entirely trusts you and you will have a time to get your share of the attention.
2007-01-12 04:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by Benjimina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 3 and a half month old daughter does the same thing. She screams and cries all day long, or wants to be difficult in every way. On a good day I can get her to giggle at me once or twice. Daddy comes home and whatever is bothering her just goes away, like it's magic! She smiles as soon as she hears his voice and throws her hands up for him to pick her up. She smiles and giggles... She just loves the man I can't understand it. I think she gets bored with me (cuz I am a stay at home Mom so I have her all day while her daddy is at work) So by the time Daddy comes home I am like an old toy... Oh well.. I suppose it's better than them not liking thier daddy at all. My friend's baby won't leave his mom for anything and her husband never got to bond with the baby. So now he like never really comes home or cares much.
2007-01-12 05:34:20 · answer #2 · answered by ashez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a SAHM and my boys seemed to adore my husband much more. I've come to the conclusion that they just don't spend near as much time with him; therefore getting excited to seem him is natural. I know they love me even if they don't show me the same excitement. I do EVERYTHING for them and have since birth because I am able to stay home with them. I feel that it would be the same for any situation in which one parent spends more time with the child than the other. The child knows we're always here.
2007-01-12 04:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if baby's dad is like most baby's dad, they do rough play, like for instance playfully throwing baby in the air and catching him, I know my husband does this with our children (6 and 3) i have to yell at him like hes one of the kids to settle down,lol.Well even at a young age kids love this, even when they are that young they can tell who's going to be a playmate and who's going to be serious. But kids need this, both the play ans the serious one who settles every thing down.Its in our nature and its in the fathers nature to interact with our kids the way we do.Its o.k. it doesn't mean he doesn't love you any less, He's just anticipating the play with dad. You'll see when baby gets older and has friends come over, they get all excited and can hardly control thyself, but when you walk thought the door, the kids run up and give you a hug and say hi MOM and go back to what they where doing, It don;t mean the kids love there friends more than you.They just like to play
2007-01-12 04:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by troxie79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to feel this way. It most likely is just that your son has to do more to capture his dad's attention. You son knows that he gets yours with very little effort. You son looks at it as though you are for nurturing and dad is for fun. Hang in there. He will not be a baby forever. Think of the time ahead of you and know that someday he will look back on his childhood and appreciate you for taking care of him.
2007-01-12 04:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by CowboyzLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it and don't take it personally. Sometimes babies get really excited to see the parent that takes care of them most because they are the most familiar, and sometimes babies get really excited to see the other parent because they are not around as much. No, your baby is not taking you for granted, he's just showing his excitement to see daddy because daddy doesn't spend as much time with him and he probably misses him more right now.
2007-01-12 04:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by Julie F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your spending the most time with the baby so he knows that your alays there for him and that you play with him and everything, but if your husband comes home and plays with him the baby mises him and then when he sees him he wants your husbands attnetion to play with him because he misses him. if you both took the same time with him he'd get used to both of you and you'd both get the same reaction probabaly. When hes a little bit older he'll think your his favorite, and he;ll run to you more than your husband
2007-01-12 04:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is kind of a good thing because my son is such a momma's boy that he will not let his daddy do anything for him such as rock him to sleep, give him a bath, feed him, etc. Mommy get's no rest what-so-ever. My son loves my to death and always wants to be around his Mommy, however my husband can get my son tickled and laughing harder than me or anyone else.
2007-01-12 04:29:57 · answer #8 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 8 month old daughter does the same thing. When I was working and mom was home with her, she would get all excited to see me. Now that its the other way around and I'm staying at home and mom is working, she gets all excited to see mom and I'm now the "chopped liver" to her.
2007-01-12 11:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by Mark F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it probably has to do with the fact that he doesn't see his dad as much and gets excited when he does see him. I would worry about him loving his dad more than you. As he gets older he will probably connect with you more because boys are naturally drawn to their mother and girls to their father. just keep doing what you are doing. keep the mommy time with him and the bond will take care of itself.
2007-01-12 04:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by Aaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋