Going thru rough time right now and husband doesn't even want to try because I don't want to move to another country with him. Now he doesn't know if he wants us to stay together, told a friend to let a car hit me, oh how he must really love me!
2007-01-12 04:16:17 · 32 answers · asked by Patti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, I am seeing several red flags in this posting that tells me you should divorce him. Do you really think that if you move that it would be any better? You need to re-evaluate this marriage and decide to either end it or stick it out. Good Luck
2007-01-12 04:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There isn't no right or wrong answer for this question, but the best answer anyone can give you is that, some men didn't really get the proper care or the best love when they were young. So in order to get that feeling, they have to be immature and make others feel like that for them. The immature part isn't a surprise what so ever in this world. I guess you just have to let them learn how to play equal and step into other people shoes and understand where they're coming from.
2007-01-18 16:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Matt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not immaturity, that is stupidity, get out while you still can, you are suppose to live your lives together or at least try to compromise. Real love wouldn't tell a friend to let a car hit you, that right there is a legality for criminal charges and grounds for divorce. But then again, only you know when you have had enough, no one can answer that one but you.
2007-01-19 21:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to be ugly here, but if he's wanting a car to hit you, tell him to hit the road. That's ridiculous. You need to get some self respect and leave his ***, cuz if not he's gonna start taking that from you too. Don't even think about going to another country with him, if he's acting like that at home, imagine how he will act where you have no family to help you out if you need them..start thinking about yourself now cuz obviously he doesn't have your best interest at heart.
2007-01-16 16:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by Susan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pattti, the fact is this: Men ARE immature and yes,
EVERYTHING IS about them, and theirs!!!!
It is unfortunate that he may have said such a rude thing, and he may not mean it when he is not in a defensive mode...but perhaps he'd say it, no matter what.
Moving to another country is a tough and huge thing to do, and if you are not in synch with him on this,
can there be any discussion about it?
We live in a "relationship - disposeable" world today,and if you love him, and want to work this out, it may have to begin with some forgiveness from you toward him, and may he WAKE UP and see who really cares about him--blessings and good Luck!
2007-01-19 16:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting off a little steam and not loving someone are 2 different things.
What sort of a friend would say something like that even if it were true ?
Growing up is something women do better than men.
Sounds like he needs to be reminded how much he loves you and not dwell on how much he resents the power you have in his life.
Male ego can be very blind, but so too can a womans perception of the unknown
2007-01-16 15:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the question? I would think if he wants a car to hit you... there wouldnt be a question in even staying. Men are God's practical joke to us women if there wasnt any men women wouldnt survive the race would die but at the same time with men here the race is still dying. Immature or not no one should treat you that way. what a jerk!
2007-01-16 09:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by teapea102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patti, you are forgetting the real meaning of marriage. all marriages end in he/she didn't do this or that for me. (Very selfish) One thing people forget these days is that we are not here on earth for ourselves, but for others. If you love him... go, say you will, in marriage, and in life if you put the other first you'll get a different feeling,a greater feeling, nothing is more full-filling than the feeling of selflessness. Its like when you help the old lady cross the street or somebody in need, the feeling you get isn't about you but, yet it feels good, right? Well imagining doing that for someone who is gonna do the same for you when you need it, its comforting. If he has no other choice than to go to another country, than go with him, If not, show him this message and then talk about what the both of you think when you read this.
Good luck:)
2007-01-12 05:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by JoJo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know, he may be serious about the car hitting you thing. I have serious concerns about whether mine is planning to "off" me or not. I sometimes think that he thinks it would be easier to get rid of me than to divorce me and deal with child support and visitation. He's a strange dude. I'd be very careful if I were you. I'm watching every move I make.
2007-01-16 12:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he'd like a car to hit you then my dear it is not love ,hes throwing a tantrum because you will not give him what he wants if he wants to move to a another country then let him but do tell him there is is no turning back the hands of time
2007-01-12 04:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by resigned 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋