My supv. has advised me that I need not gossip (I dont gossip - not productive) and to get along with the other depts. (Have had no issues with other dept) Since I have been here she has done nothing but gossip about other employees. "So do as I say not as I do." I have spoken to other mgr at other dept and was advised to take to head of company - should I? I expect backlash from my supv. she does not like to be told she is doing something wrong. She loves to micro manage. Dont want to quit need the job, but I love what I do.
2007-01-12 04:16:13 · 10 answers · asked by Feline05 5 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Girls gossip in the work place. Someone has to be the lady and do the lady like thing. I am truly surprized at the amount of girls in the workforce these days that really should be ladies. I have a daughter who is 13 and sometimes It is really not funny to think grown adults gossip just as much.Workplace gossip is wrong and helps bring down the attitude of everyone. I have learned to call it what it is. I tell my co workers I am sorry I will not be a part of this conversation. It is easier to stand there and listen but that really is not the ladylike thing to do. Just be a lady about it and keep loving what you do.
Good Luck
2007-01-12 04:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well by going around and discussing it with other managers that are not her supervisors you have been gossipping about her!
If you enjoy your job then just do your job. When she insists on talking about another employee ask her if this "problem" with the other is something that she see's in you--or ask her how she feels the problem is going to affect the productivity of your department. That way she might get the idea that you only want to hear about it if it's relevant to you. If you don't feed into it you might find that she stops gossipping to you.
On occasion I have had employers (especially young ones) assume that as a young female I would not take direct criticism of my performance well and they have wanted to correct my behavior by pointing out their "disappointment" in someone elses behavior. I dealt with it by directly saying "OH! Gee I've been doing that too--how would you like me to correct this problem in myself etc." Managing and being friendly can be difficult and if she's new at it she might be making this common mistake.
2007-01-12 04:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by psycho-cook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see that it's necessary to go to the head of the company as of yet (based on what you have told us). Just simply tell your supervisor that you do get along well with others and that you don't gossip because its not productive. Then leave it at that. If you ever have to go to the head of the company make sure you put it in writing that you expect no retaliation from your supervisor. You should never have to fear making a complaint it's one of your rights as an employee.
2007-01-12 04:21:38 · answer #3 · answered by veronica r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That what you did, talking to the others about her is what she is talking about when she says to you don't gossip.
It's a double standard. As long as you want to work there keep your mouth shut. Making trouble for your superiors is never going to get you to being their superiors. No one wants to have a problem dropped into their lap.
When she starts gossiping, put your head down into the filing drawer and get very, very busy. That's always how I handle gossip. No one enjoys gossiping to someones back of head. Just do not participate in any way. Especially not by complaining that she's a gossip. I know this does not appear to make sense, but it does.
Just be too good for gossip. Then they will gossip that you think you are too good for the rest... and you know what that will get you noticed by her superiors, since they know what she and her gossiping group is all about.
Plus they will then know that you won't do complaining about them to their superiors. See how that works?
No one wants their subordiates to complain about them either. So don't do it. Not unless it's something illegal going on.
2007-01-12 04:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 22:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you need your job? If so, keep your mouth shut and your head down.
If not, then by all means go above your supervisor's head. It will be a "she said, I said" kind of thing which will make you sound immature and vindictive.
Your supervisor on the other hand, has the power to make your life a living hell. So if you enjoy dreading coming to work every day continue to make waves.
It's your choice.
2007-01-12 04:26:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her to show you the complaints write ups are on paper, so in order for you to get i any kind of trouble they have to show you the paper. tell her you would appreciate it if she would talk to you much kinder than what she has been and that youre not going to let this get in the way of your job because you really like it.
2007-01-12 04:25:36 · answer #7 · answered by scrappy06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her what makes u think that I do? Or that I have had issues w/other departments... Then you can have a one on one.... May be she blamed u for something and this is her way of getting out of it herself...
2007-01-12 04:20:17 · answer #8 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someone tells you that you are gossiping, you don't think you are, but other people do, and its extremely annoying. so leave the useless details out for once cuz nobody cares!!!!!!
2007-01-12 04:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should quit. maybe go back to school.
2007-01-12 04:28:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋