ok so myself and my boyfriend have a mate who lives in cape town! so there was a position going in my job and i offerd it to him! ok so now the situation is he needs to stay with us, he doesnt have a car and will be using mine ill be using my boyfiends and dropping him off in the mornin g and fetching him every afternoon .
im just feel sorry for our mate coz he doesnt have a lot of cash and i just feel he could really suceed in Real Estate, i just want to give him a a little helping hand.. do you think this is a good idea???
2007-01-12 04:12:20 · 9 answers · asked by angelbum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's never a bad thing to help out a friend, but I would recommend that you set clear limits and boundaries....you will still need private time with your boyfriend, your friend will be expected to carry his load of responsibilities around the house and help with bills and once he has started making money at work, he has X amount of time to find his own place. Explain that you feel that setting clear expectations for everyone for the get-go will prevent any misunderstanding and any potential damage being done to your friendship.
2007-01-12 04:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by nexgenjenith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is incredibly nice of you!!! Just be careful that you set ground rules regarding the living situation and the car. That will save problems from developing later if you both know whats expected. Also, you might want to check with your insurance company since he will be driving your car. I hope your kindness comes back to you two-fold! You are a good friend.
2007-01-12 12:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by lady_daizee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. dont indulge in that because it can put your relation with your boyfriend at stake. let your bof friend assist him but you don't try to get involve in this. It takes a lot of effort to create and maintain a realation and needs just a hair size DOUBT which breaks the relation. This world is very cruel and most importantly this world is most cruel to those persons who try to help others against all odds.This is my suggestion , Final decision is yours. What you want : to help someone and risk your relation with your boyfriend OR to take wise decision and maintain your relation with your boyfriend in a SAFE.
Regards
2007-01-12 12:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by AngelBoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one thing to get him a job, but he should only stay at your place until he finds his own place and you went overboard with the car. Why can't he ride with you to work if you are going to the same place.
2007-01-12 12:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by Tab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're doing a great thing. Not too many would extend their friendship that far. You'll never know it could pay off for you guys. Much success with it.
2007-01-12 12:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, everyone needs a helping hand at some point.
2007-01-12 12:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hope he doesn't forget your help in future coz a friend in need is a friend in deed.
2007-01-12 12:16:10 · answer #7 · answered by zabist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a probelm. and it will cause more problems. could your mate take a cab to work, or a bus. you 2 or going to have to work thatone out yourself, i think.
2007-01-12 12:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i think that you should give him a helping hand
2007-01-12 14:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by Cathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋