it was a snowy and sad day, i was back home from the school at 8 pm of night. then there was just me in the street and three other boys. then one that boys fall all the snow on tree on me. and all of them start laugh at me. i couldnt protect myslef from them. they was tree boys biger than me and i was just a girl alone in the street. so i take silence. i felt that i am very weak. i go to my rome and start to cry all the night. so antry with myslef because i wasnt able to protect myself and angry with god because he didnt gave me power to protect myslef.
if some one do this with u, how do u try to think and trate to dont feel sad or weak about it. plz just tell about ur thoughs not that how can i protect from my slef.
i really hate boys.
2007-01-12 03:47:11 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
First, don't get angry with all boys...not all boys are like that, and getting angry at them all will hurt you far more than it will hurt the ones that did this to you.
Second, God does not bring you to something that you cannot get through...with His help. But one must always be careful to take the right lessons from any situation. You cannot change the character of those boys...but you can change your own actions. Perhaps the lesson is not to walk alone...perhaps find a boy to walk you home. You can't do that if you are angry at all boys.
Edit - Someday you will likely want to settle down and raise kids. Getting all tough and taking martial-arts classes (as some feminist might suggest) is not the answer...contrary to popular belief, men don't find a female version of Jackie Chan very attractive. Don't let the action of a few stupid boys spoil the beautiful person that you already are.
2007-01-12 04:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by fishman 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I am sorry to hear that those boys were mean to you. I am sure it hurt to be laughed at. But you should know there is no reason to be angry at yourself or feel shame. Those boys have the much greater shame. Some day they will probably regret the cruel things they did when they were immature and inexperienced. And it's not just girls but boys too who find them selves picked on by someone bigger or by a gang.
What can you do? You can try to confront them and fight them but you are likely to loose, after all it is their game. Bullies never pick on anyone unless they think they have the advantage. And what if you do win, all you accomplished is to become like them.
You were right to leave them but know you were the better person.
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2007-01-12 18:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, but everyone is different. There are times when you may feel strong and there are times when you feel weak. At times when you feel weak just remember there's always going to be by your side no matter what. If not in person than in mind. Don't worry, guys can be mean. If you want to protect yourself from guys then go borrow a self defense book or search online. Ask your friends there's always someone there to help.
2007-01-12 11:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by flowerlily629 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I don't get what happened - did the boys knock snow off a tree onto you? If so, then let it go - they were just fooling around and probably didn't mean to upset you so badly. It also sounds like maybe all the boys fell on you, into the snow... if that was the case, then stop hanging out with them, and again, you need to let it go and get it over it.
2007-01-12 03:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Many people have cruel things done to them. Dropping snow on you is really very very low on the cruelty scale. You could have taken a different approach. What if you had laughed? What if you had made some snowballs and thrown them at the kids? You all might have had some fun.
A tragedy (in this case) is a 2-way street. It's what they do AND how you react.
2007-01-12 03:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know you addressed this to girls but guys never pay attention to that since yahoo won't give us a mens studies so your pretty much stuck with it.Anywho,my bro did something similar at lake tahoe snowboarding and ran into a girl knocking her down as he wasn't able to stop due to downhill speed.He never laughed and apologized to her.To this day he still feels like s**t over it.Some guys are just little boys and don't grow up.Take brazilian jujitsu and you'll feel better in case it happens again.Sorry for your pain.
2007-01-14 17:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All boys aren't bad. There is nothing to feel weak about. They were just three idiots playing a joke. I am sure they didn't realize that you would be so hurt. If you would have yelled at them, boys are pretty intimidated by girls because they really can't do anything. I don't blame you for being worried though. It happens to everyone, even boys.
2007-01-12 03:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by JimZ 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
You know I just answered this question in the psychology part of this website. you just need to talk to someone and get it out of your system. Have you had a bad experience with boys. Do they make you feel trapped? I feel if you talk about it the dreams will go away. Possibly if you have had problems with boys you need to confront them and let them know to leave you alone and things will get better.
2007-01-12 04:00:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you were raped you need to report it. Go talk to a school counselor if need be, I am not sure where you are from but this needs to be delt with.
In the mean time, it is natural to feel the way you feel after something like this happens, but you need to think of it this way, sometimes we are week.
As for as God, he has never abandoned you, but sometimes he allows us to deal with things like this, and to make our own choices.
Please go talk to someone besides yahoo Q and A
2007-01-12 07:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'm so sorry to hear that this happened to you. do you have an older brother, friend or cousin that could help protect you? boys can be mean at that age and they are that way to a lot of people, so try not to let them get to you. *hugs*
2007-01-12 04:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by alyssa h 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋