Ive been dating this guy over a year and it seems to be going no where fast... We love each other I think..I mean we tell each other that all the time. We have never had a fight or anything, it has been a perfect relationship but, I want to get married and have a family one day not forever from now, ya know? And I dont want to have a weirdness there if I ask him where this is all going. What should I do or say to know where he wants to go with this? I dont want to stay if he has no plans to go anywhere.
2007-01-12 03:43:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is 31 and has been married before and I just dont want it to feel weird if I were to ask him... I know it is something simple but, I am not a blunt person! Just need somethin easy to say or whatever :(
2007-01-12 03:50:07 · update #1
honistly, if you have been going out for a year and don't feel comfortible talking to him about this kind of thing, then apparently you two aren't as close as you want to be. you will have to take the first step and ask, if he gets scaired away, then he's not the one for you! if you want kids and a husband enough, then you have to do what you have to do...ASK where the relationship is going!! see if he has the same goals in life!! if he thinks that your time-frame for kids and hubbie is good, then go for it, otherwise you know what you gotta do to be happy! Good Luck!!
2007-01-12 03:55:00 · answer #1 · answered by cantthinkofauseridsohereitis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in order to answer this question intelligently one would need more information. You said that it's "going nowhere fast" what exactly does that mean? Has the relationship retreated in some way? Do you enjoy each others company as much anymore? Do you have a good sex life? I wouldn't just up and leave the relationship after a little over a year if he hasn't asked you to marry him yet. It doesn't seem like you have a very open relationship in the area of communication if you are asking others for advice on this. You have to ask yourself if this is the man you want to spend your life with and if he is worth waiting for. If not, maybe you're not with the right man. But, 1 year isn't that long to be worrying about where it's going. I think the best advice I can offer you is to figure out a way to find out what his long term goals are for marriage. The fact that you have never had a fight in a year concerns me. It seems that your level of communication might not be very genuine with each other. Couples naturally disagree if they are being completely 100% honest with each other. If you do find that he and you do share the same value of marriage, but he is just not ready yet, you have to ask yourself if it's worth breaking up, finding a new man only to end up in the same situation. If he's the right guy for you, then he should be worth waiting for. But, you need to know if you two are on the same page.
2007-01-12 03:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by hypwoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe it to the both of you to discuss it before leaving.
After a year you should have some idea about his take on marriage and family. If you don't that says something. Maybe he's no where near ready so he doesn't even want to mention it.
You have the right to know if you're wasting your time though so just ask him. If asking a simple question like that after a year ruins the relationship then there wasn't much of a relationship there after all.
2007-01-12 03:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by NYGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask the guy the male species has a problem with ESP and we just do not think on the same wave lengths as women, so if you really want to know be frank with him. But you said think?
for loving one another maybe he is not the guy for you
2007-01-12 03:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a good plan..
Don't waste more than 2 - 3 yrs on a relationship without marriage.
You are going to have to discuss it with him..
2007-01-12 03:46:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm just start talking about having kids and stuff. or starting saving money and say your saving it for our kids. i dont know find a way to talk about something in the furture
2007-01-12 03:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him flat out what he wants out of the relationship and where he thinks its headed.
2007-01-12 03:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and ask him and if he tell you that his not thinking of that know just go .
2007-01-12 03:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by ana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and ask him about your relationship,,
2007-01-12 04:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go
2007-01-12 03:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋