MY QUESTION - why is she acting like this? is it my fault? do u think she is over me?did she use me?

Question

well, we broke up about 5 months ago, cause of some issues including some other girl i was in love with
Well this girl i broke up with said she loves me, and i love her too,
but it was bound to end, so we part ways

well, it was m y birthdAY a about 20 days ago - so this girl, sent my friend an Sms and told him to wish me on her behalf - she didn't do it herself, cause after we broke up i told her to think of me as i dont exist and never to speak to me again, she said fine!!

well - That was all done, 3 days after she called my friend and spoke to him, cause some people told her i was still into her, so she asked him, he denied it - and she said cool thanks.
Next day, My friend asked her to come to our hangout spot and told her that i was there to - she refused to and said she would like to save the ackwardness and its a very bad idea if she shows up - she said it does not make scense

that was new years eve - well, i heard that that night she had a date for new years

2 seconds ago
well, i went to the party i thought she would be at, and bumped into her cousin there, and no where was she

anyhow, i say her on the night of her birthday the starting - she was busy grinding with this guy and she was even looking into his eyes,
she had her hand on his shoulder,

I cant seem to figure out whats going on -

does she like me?
not like me??

whats goi ng on??

is she tryin to hint something>??? if yes, what? and why?

and whats goin on with her - plz answer

i cant call her

Answer 1

Please leave her alone! I am sorry if I offend you but because of what you tell is easy to see you were an as s hole with this girl, she is now trying to pick up the pieces of her heart and keep going! let her do so, she deserves to be happy!

Answer 2

Well your "friend" blew it for you. She moved on. You didn't. You need to. LET HER GO MAN. Now you are starting to turn into one of those weird stalker types. You know the ones that never let the person go. See she didn't break up with you. You told her that you didn't exsist anymore. So it was your birthday, she had some feelings left. Called your friend to wish you a good one. Then later asked what you thought. Your "friend" said you didn't. Well there went the unresolved feelings.
Oh and if there was a hint it was she saw you and wants you to leave her alone. She thinks you moved on. Maybe she is playing a game where she pretends she moved on but still hasn't. She thinks you have though. Don't follow her around. Let her have her life.

Answer 3

Well, first of all, it seems clear that she has no interest in being with you again. the Happy Birthday wish was simply her way of letting you know that she was thinking of you ont hat special day, don't take it farther than it was meant to be. Next, there is no reason that you should be wondering if she wants to be with you when you know that she has moved on and has been dating other men and the like. While there may be a desire to still be with you and feelings for you, she seems to have made the decision to move on and not wait around for you. It sounds like from the little detail that you gave about the break up that you were in love with another girl and I am sure your ex was devastated over this. Don't hold your breath on her coming running back to you, she was hurt once before and won't want that again.

Answer 4

I don't think that she is trying to get back with you. Sometimes when we are with people and abruptly break up, we want then to know that we still care. If you loved someone enough after all the pain is gone you can work on a nice friendship. Maybe she's paving the way for that to happen. Still I think she's trying to move on. If you still want to be with her tell her. If she says no, then you know it's time to stop wasting time and move on. If she says she feels the same then good for you. Either way. you should be honest with her and with yourself. And if she doesn't like you anymore then move on and later try to be friends. exes are helpful friends.

Answer 5

She is not over you. She wants to remain alone and not think about you but she can't and thinks about good times she had. Now, having those thoughts, she wants to share it with someone and wants to talk to you about good ole' times and be nostalgic. But she cannot do that because it would so awkward and she wants to move on.
The bottom line is - be her friend if she agrees to. Don't try to ask her out again unless she does. Make no move. Be on the safe side by assuming that you 2 want to move apart and you should move on - there are plenty of fish in the water.
Whatever must happen will happen. For now, move on, think of something else, go fish.

Answer 6

Try to remember, you are NO LONGER a part of her life. Whatever is going on with her is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!You're relationship with her ended because you wanted someone else so why are you concerned with who she's dating, seeing, or going out with?? And why do you think she likes you?? Even if she did, she's moving on so you need to leave her alone! You're obviously not good for her so stop being so preoccupied with this, grow up, and move on!!

Answer 7

If you think there's a chance, call her and talk to her (none of this "he said, she said" crap).

If you do love her, tell her that you were stupid to date the other girl simultaneously (which you were), and that you can't make it right, but you'd like to try again and be better for her this time.

There's been time since the breakup, so maybe the issue is less of one now. If she tells you that it's really over, though, respect her and move on.

Answer 8

Girl are funny this way.They love it when boys pay attention to them and you are.She does not want you any more but she doesn,t want to see you with anybody else either.She is using you in a way because she can see and do what she wants while your hanging there by this little string waiting for her.She loves it.Shes in control.She,s still getting the attention from you but everyone else also.My friend move on don,t give her the satisfaction of making a fool out of you.

Answer 9

Man you got alot to learn about women. Girls dont like to hear about other girls that you been with especialy the ones that you really cared about. It makes them feel like if they are second in your life and they will never be able to make you feel the way other girls in your past relationship made you feel. It seems to me like that girl is just trying to get your attention or make you jealous, cuz deep down she knows how you feel abuot her. If you really care about this girl and deep down you know that you and her can be happy with each other then swallow your pride and go after her.that will really show her how you feel about her. GOOD LUCK BRO.

Answer 10

Maybe she broke up with you but wants to stay 'friends'. Ignoring someones (someone important to you) existence is a hard thing to do.