Do women still expect men to open doors for them?

Question

Now that women have equal rights, is it not slightly hypocritical of women to expect us men to behave like gentlemen. I mean why should we if women claim to be our equals. Another point of issue is the polcy of women and children first in times of life threatening emergencies. On a sinking ship for instance should it now be just children first. We men find it all so confusing.

Answer 1

Has nothing to do with equal rights - it's all about good, old fashioned chivalry. I always expect my man to behave like a gentleman - of course, that means I should always behave like a lady! Anyway, although women may have been accorded equal rights (i.e. wages, legal standing, etc.), women and men always have and always will be different (thank goodness). I get a warm, fuzzy feeling when a man opens a door for me, or offers me a seat on a crowded train. It's just a nice thing to do.

Re the sinking ship - only problem with just children first is, who is going to take care of them (especially babies and toddlers)? You can't just throw them into the lifeboat and trust they will be capable of surviving by themselves!

Perhaps it's because I was brought up after the second world war when men knew how to behave like men and women knew how to behave like women. I agree, it's all a bit confusing now. If in doubt, do the kind thing. And if, by doing the kind thing, some emancipated woman takes offence, you can always smile sweetly and apologise, leaving her to fume (and perhaps question her own behaviour).

Answer 2

No, it's only hypocritical if they expect men to behave as gentlemen when they refuse to behave like ladies.

I think the solution is very simple: when women are ladylike in their attitude and behavior (courteous) in simply saying thank you when a door is opened for them (for example), they would be accorded this simple courtesy more often.

Men SHOULD behave as gentlemen at all times and that means treating ladies (and other gentlemen) with deference, courtesy, and respect. This DOES include opening doors for both ladies and other gentlemen.

A true lady would NOT demand (expect) this service, but accept it with grace and appreciation when it is offered (as it should be).

That is, a true lady would never fail to say "thank you" or at least make eye contact and smile.

She would NEVER saunter through the door as if he's an unpaid doorman or slave. THAT is hypocritical.

Incidentally, I have never had a gentleman that I opened a door for not thank me. They don't EXPECT it and therefore always acknowledge and appreciate it.

Answer 3

I dont expect it and it rarely happens, however it is nice when it does, however i think its just good manners and i will hold a door for a man too!
well i agree It should definitely be children first! they should always be protected, as for women first i dont know! men and women both have equal values and skills in society!

Answer 4

I disagree, men and women aren't created equal... It is obviously clear that women are more superior than men!! I mean we are the ones who get big huge tummys, and who go thru all the pain and hard times in delivery, so u guys better open doors for us!! Guys need to treat women like queens, they need to stop with the lies, the cheating, and all the bull
$-H-I -T.... Please!! And women if u are wonderin why u can't find a decent man, maybe u ain't lookin in the rite places.. cuz there still are gentlemen out there, please believe!

Answer 5

No becuase it rarely happens.

But when it does we like it. :) It would be wonderful to know that chivalry isn't dead.

And while women do have equal rights, men still have that "protector" complex that they can't get rid of.

When women earn the same amount that men do on the same job then I'll stop expecting the chivalry.

Answer 6

Youre weird...you mean to tell me just because someone decides they want equal rights youre going to stop being a MAN, a GENTLEMAN, someone who a woman can depend on...it wasnt about women not wanting to be treated like women, it was and is about men not treating women equally as in equal pay for equal work, etc...Grow up buddy...dont stop being a man just because youre too lazy to open a door, or sorry to sacrifice yourself for a woman and child....people always talk about black men being this not being that, being incarcerated, not being man enough...uh..i see alot of white men doing the exact same thing..in a nut shell "NOT BEING THE MAN YOURE SUPPOSED TO BE"

Answer 7

I do expect men to still be gentlemen and open every single door. And I will remain a lady and allow him to do so.

Answer 8

i don't expect men to open doors for me but when they do i always say thank you plus if i go though a door 1st i will hold it for who ever is behind me not for them to just walk though but to take it so that it doesn't hit them in the face its just good manners

Answer 9

i don't expect that but i do expect someone to be polite and not slam it on my face... all the same, depending on who grabs the handle first, i have have no problem in opening the door to a man, and say:"after you"...they first say no, but i won't budge and go "oh ok then".

Answer 10

holding a door open for someone is just good manners, i hold them open for men women and children and expect the same, i like old fashionedness and good manners, my husband always walks to the outside to protect me from traffic...sigh..and i think its lovely to see a man give up his seat to a woman or an oap, i give my seat up for oap's, women with kids and women who are pregnant...dont be confused..just be chivalrous x