My friend, who's a guy, cheats on his girlfriend. They've been together 4 months and he's cheated 8 times that I know of. He keeps sleeping with his ex who is still pining over him. What I don't understand is that he gets all suspicious that his current girlfriend may be cheating. He has no evidence, but his current girlfriend has a child and takes the child to visit her ex. He thinks that while she's visiting her ex, she could be cheating. He also wonders when his girlfriend goes home at night if she's really there all night long. He's even asked me to do a drive-by with him at midnight to see if her car is in her driveway. I declined of course. Why is he so worried about his girlfriend cheating when he's cheating on her?! I don't understand this way of thinking.
2007-01-12 03:21:09 · 18 answers · asked by ☆skyblue 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
DJ Deep and Pahmomof3, that's interesting that you both mention that because he's always broke and looking for someone else to pay.
2007-01-12 04:24:49 · update #1
She probably supports him with her money and he doesn't want to see her leave.
2007-01-12 03:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by DJ Deep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't really "thinking" the way you and I would define it. He's got a tortured and twisted self-image problem of some kind and may be at least partially divorced from reality. He needs major help but you'll not be able to give it to him. At some level, he knows he's got a major problem. You might help him deal with if it by asking if he knows what it means that he's cheating and worrying about whether his gf is cheating.
2007-01-12 03:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time when someone in a relationship is cheating and continuously accuses the other person of doing the same, it's because they feel guilty and paranoid and want to justify their cheating with the other person doing the same.
2007-01-12 03:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by Smittie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's pretty insecure and an asshole. The funny thing about people is that they can act one way but expect others to be completely genuine and truthful with them. I had a friend like this. She slept around and flirted with every guy she met but couldn't figure out why she couldn't find a good man. Because the men were treating her the same way she was treating them!
2007-01-12 03:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by Princess P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Generally this is really the case. Someone who is overly suspicious of their partner cheating is more likely to cheat then their partner. Although I have no factual basis to say, I think it's because of their own insecurities that they cheat themselves. Humans as a whole hate the thought of pain, and if they're emotionally involved with the person they're with, then the fear that their partner may cheat and hurt them, makes them believe that it's ok for them to. Because.....inside they feel it's better to hurt themselves, then to allow someone else to hurt them.
2007-01-12 03:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by Ken 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First issues first! in case you do not trust him adequate to not have checked his telephone, why are you sitting in a motor vehicle making out with him? Please, take care of your self better than that. Have a touch better vanity for your self than dropping a at the same time as on someone you do not trust. reason in case you do not trust him now you not in any respect will. 2d, a telephone call taken ought to not be a reason behind mistrust. it type of feels to me there is not something in existence anymore it really is not interrupted with information from folk on their cell phones. not something aggravates me better than spending time with a chum or chum than having them interrupt our time mutually to take a telephone call or get carry of/deliver textual content messages. yet that would not look the overall view of society precise this second and taking telephone calls and sending and receiving textual content messages, in spite of what you're doing, seems the norm. So in case you want this guy and in case you discover the thanks to have adequate vanity to purely be with someone you've faith, perchance you should dangle up your issue about telephone calls being an interruption and settle for it really is the way issues take position precise this second! solid success!
2016-12-02 04:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad that he is worried. Maybe now he is finally realising just how awful it feels to be the one who is possibly cheated on. He knows how easy it is to do so of course he worries that she is doing the same to him.
2007-01-12 03:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called lack of morals, and double standard, surely an ignorant individual. Does not get the treat people like you want to be treated philosophy.
2007-01-12 03:27:16 · answer #8 · answered by done wrenching 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
cheaters are always suspicious of others because they are doing it and they think everyone else is. your friend has allowed him to disrespect her like this so he does because he can get away with it. if she's not going to do something about it then why should he stop.your friend ought to dump him before she gets a disease she can't get rid of. my question is why do women put up with that?
2007-01-12 03:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has a real problem. He's not trust worthy so he doesn't trust. He may always be this way. He may never be trustworthy. He may need professional help.
2007-01-12 03:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by Barbra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont understand it because your female. We aren't like this. When a man is cheating he suspects his women is too. That's how men are. They get all paranoid thinking if I can do it she can do it.
2007-01-12 03:30:40 · answer #11 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋