We are both 26 years old and went to college together. We met freshmen year in our first class and hit it off ever since. During her divorce she would call me almost every day and I would help her work through her grief. Now that she is going through the divorce she is living with her mom and sister, and she claims they are also very controlling. She will not return my call for about a week and a half and say she was too busy to talk and that her sister does not like her to talk on the phone around her. However, I think maybe she really just does not want to be my friend anymore. My car was broken and I had to call a taxi to pick me up from work, so I called my friend to chat since I had been waiting for about three hours at that point.. We chatted for about twenty minutes and then she said to give her a call when I got home because she wanted to make sure I was okay. I called her when I got home, but she has been to busy to call me back since that night. Is she tired of me?
2007-01-12 03:02:41 · 7 answers · asked by Nellie L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No shes not tired of you. Divorces can be difficult. Plus I think your friend does not have a cell phone and when you live in other people homes you have to follow there rules. Dont trip you have been friend all this time. But im sure you never been friends in a divorce before up until now. So guess what if your friend ever gets married again and Divorce again you will see that this is how she handles that situation and will come around after her ordeal. we all handle things Differently. Let her have her space and eventually she will call you. Dont be so selfish chill for a bit.
2007-01-12 03:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone here can answer that. We don't know all the details, for one thing. From what it sounds like, it sounds like she is either using you when she needs you, or that she only calls when she feels like she has something important enough to call for. Maybe you just need to remind her how much you value the friendship and that she can call for no no good reason! LOL How often do you call her? I have a friend who does the same to me, except it's now starting to go both ways b/c I resent having to be the one to always contact her a few times before she responds back eventually. Maybe you both have outgrown eachother (or one outgrew the other) and doesn't want to hurt your feelings by letting go, and is trying to do it gently and without making it obvious. Either way, from what you mentioned, she's not handling it like a true friend would, so it's up to you to ask yourself how much you value your friendship with her. How would you handle never talking to her again? Would you regret it later? If the answer is yes, or you think you might, then have a long, serious talk with her and tell her how you feel. How she acts after that will give you a good indication how she values YOUR friendship. Go from there. Good luck!
2007-01-12 03:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by Luv2HelpYou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is really selfish.
You haven't mentioned anything that she has done for you, only what you have done for her. I had a friend once who was only concerned with what was going on in her life, and once I quit talking to her, I discovered I had a lot more time for myself. I was much happier without the burden of being her friend. Even though she is going through a hard time, a true friend would be there for you as well. Sounds like you may be better off without her. If you do speak to her again, ask her. Then you can fix it or move on.
2007-01-12 03:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by An Inconvenient Thinker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are so close friends, I think she's not tired of you. maybe she's very busy, so she can't find time. Any way I would think the same thing you did, but believe me that is not always true. I had the same problem! you could try talk to her about that over some dinner. if this happens more often, than it's sure that she's tired of you!
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2016-11-23 14:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, in a way she is--most likely though, life is just very complicated for her and time isn't always available. My advice? Don't burn the bridges between the two of you. Give her time and space, find other friends and very likely she'll "come back" when she gets things straightened around.
2007-01-12 03:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
egoist is the name ! she finished using you when she needed you, and now she finds excuses for not keeping the same relations as used to be. she is not interested in you sexually or other,she will call you again when moving to another apartment, or... when she encounter car problems. learn from the past , a 26 old girl don't behave like this if she is an adult.
2007-01-12 03:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by mukyon1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋