My husband left me 2 years ago ,I had a car accident 'cause I was so depressed I was hospitalize.I lost my job where I had 20 years cause my broke back.They broke up and he was seeing 2 other girls after 8 months he came back , and now this last Oct. he left me again it is hard for me .after he leave me we were seeing each other he say he love me and all that stuff we has "intimacy".he help me to paid some bills ,but I feel bad because he not stay..look like I'm the other and not the wife.My friends tell me let him go that he never will change I know they are right but I love him.the last week I went to the place where she work for let her know that he still see me and call me,she hear the message he left on my cellp.where he said he loves me and he miss me I took the decision to tell her because he lied telling me every weekend that he is coming back and nothing. Look like he convince her cause she told me I'm lying.What can I do? How I paid my bills I lose my good job for his fault.
2007-01-12 03:00:19 · 9 answers · asked by Jessy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
girl it has happend to many times there is better out there you just have to give it time and go looking. good things will fall in to place don't worry give it some time but let him keep paying your bills that man deserves what he gets. when i first met my husband we were doing fine then a year later things fell apart ha cheated on me and i left it alone then we got back together months later. then it happend again then i learned to play hard to get i went with his best friend a partied and i ended up sleeping with this guy. i did that because he hurt me not because i wanted to . then he came back months later then he cheated once again i played hard to get then he came back you need to play to but don't go sleeping around you can act like you have a date anytime let him know you wont be home and go out and do something for your self.
2007-01-12 03:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by kimmy07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand you love him, but is your misery worth trying to save a marriage that he so obviously doesn't care about. Read what you wrote on here! He wants both worlds, and you are letting him have it!! Why not make the decision for him and leave him!! If he left you 2 years ago because of cheating and he is doing it again, the he is not going to change.
2007-01-12 11:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, he cares enough about you to pay your bills and be a friend, but he wants to move on with his life, and he must find it difficult to be with you in your medical state. Just let him go. Or accept that you will just be friends from now on. Get your divorce, and find someone that will love you and be compassionate to all your needs, rather than only caring for his own.
2007-01-12 11:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by Brad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't appear to be the only one who believes everything he tells them. u are in denial, meaning u will go to any length to avoid seeing the truth, but u can tell whats in his heart by his actions. he tells u he loves u but he is telling her the same thing. u need to end the relationship, as he is causing alot of hurt and depression in your life. depression does cause us to not pay attention, and have accidents, as we are so caught up in our hurt, we fail to pay attention to things we should be watching in our lives. he will never change, and the longer u put up with it the longer he will keep doing it. show him u have some self respect, and that you won't share him.or he will keep doing it, as he knows he can always come back at his convenience. we often teach people how to treat us, by what we are willing to put up with. stop welcoming him back into the marriage bed, as it is going to be this way until u put a stop to it, either by confrontation, or leaving him.
2007-01-12 12:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK i want to say I'm sorry for you my dad cheated on my mom and she was a wreck ok and she had back problems and stuff to. He doesn't love you ok he is selfish I'm sorry but leave him hes gonna cheat no matter what you do if it honestly hurts you leave him.
2007-01-13 22:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by Un-Happy Gilmore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself: Do you love him MORE than yourself?
Because that is what I'm hearing. And that makes NO sense.
You need to be whole for YOURSELF. No ONE is worth depriving yourself of a full enriching life!
2007-01-12 11:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him... try to find a job and live decently with the other
members of ur family... it seems that he's never going to correct himself...
gd luck and be courageous
2007-01-12 11:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by Rose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him this time
2007-01-12 11:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by Pattie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and the problem is.
2007-01-12 11:06:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋