i have obtained an emergency order of protection against my spouse. I have 3 children from a prior relationship. At my husbands request I am not employed. I have worked for him, he is self employed, for a year. He has abused me physically, emotionally and mentally for a year. He has cut me off finacially. I have found proof that he has this same pattern of abuse. He has been married three times, the second marriage lasted less than a year also. I have talked with his second wife who also had to get an order of protection against him. I haven't any financial resources and I'm backed in a corner. I have been granted temporary possesion of the marital residence. He has filed for the same and for divorce. I believe he should be punished for his pattern of abuse, domestic abuse is against the law. He is finacially secure and my name isn't on any of the property, ie. house, car etc. Any advice in my situation is appreciated. Can I bring criminal charges for the abuse?
2007-01-12 02:56:22 · 4 answers · asked by CJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1) if records are kept in the house. then you need to make a copy of everything. go to a friend, or family member. take every singe piece of paper and make a copy of it. then give the copies to your family or friends that you trust will not destroy it
2) GET A JOB. you need to regain your power back girl. you need to have (and maintain) your own source of income in any relationship. not working (or chosing to work for him, stay at home mom, house wife) is giving your partner WAY too much power over you
3) hire a lawyer. or search the internet for some free advice on what you can do to get started as far as getting yourself prepared for this ulgy divorce.
4) you will have to search the internet for some domestic abuse help that is in your area. they will have far better resources than yahoo answers can provide. and more options on what you can do to prepare yourself for this ulgy divorce battle.
5) the next time you enter a relationship with a man...you need to make him understand that you will work your own job, have your own bank account (in your name) and have your own car (in your name). if he has a problem with that...that should be a red flag and you should run not walk from him. no woman should give up her identity and her self independence for any man. if the man is not willing to give that up for her, then she should not give that up for him.
2007-01-12 03:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After going over this, I just utilized the service spoken of by the NJ State Trooper on here. I come from a very strict Jewish family, and I have been dating a non-Jewish girl for some time now.. A girl who my parents do not approve of. They think there is something very wrong about her. They believe she has a shady past, like she is violent or into drugs or something. To prove them wrong, I decided to run that background check on here from http://www.echeck.pcti-system.com .. I came across many interesting things.. many of which I won't get into.
The report was VERY thorough. What I did find, which turned out to be a deal breaker, was FOUR TRO's(temporary restraining orders) 2 were dismissed, the other 2 were finalized into a final restraining order(lifetime restraining order) ... The ones that were finalized were as a result of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE and the other for STALKING. I was shocked when I saw this. I guess sometimes you can never really know who you might be dealing with!
2014-10-13 11:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter that your name is not on any of the property. It is ALL considered marital property and you have as much right to it as he does.
This summer, my husband and I got into a huge argument over his whore, and I ended up throwing the dog's water dish at his new jeep. Dented it. He called 911 and wanted to have me arrested for destruction of his property. The officer who responded told him that I could blow it up if I wanted to, and there was not a damn thing that he could do about it, except pay for it, and it did not matter whose name it was in, it was marital property.
you can bring criminal charges for the abuse.
email me and I can tell you how to get the records you need.
2007-01-12 03:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by siriusblackpearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You MUST obtain legal counsel immediately!
2007-01-12 03:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋