i'm 5'0, 22 years old and 105 pounds,,,,,,,,, my mom thinks i should be between 95-97 pounds..........what do you think, how can i get her off my back????
2007-01-12 02:52:45 · 20 answers · asked by a lady 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i don't want to lose weight, i just want to know how to get her off my back..... this whole thing is affecting our relationship,,, i don't visit her as much as i would like to because she already bothers me on the phone and u can't even imagen in person...
2007-01-12 03:12:59 · update #1
Tell her to mind her own business. Tell her she should lose some weight. Flat out tell her you don't want to see her if she's going to be like that.
You have an ideal weight, 105 on a 5' frame is good! Ew you don't want to be too skinny!
2007-01-12 06:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by RitzFitz29 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs to back off and mind her own body. She has no business telling you how you should look. You sound like you are just fine anyway. I would go for breakfast or lunch with her and calmly but firmly ask her to stop discussing your weight, that you are comfortable with yourself and if you ever need advice you will ask her. Explain that you love her but she is upsetting you and it can't continue. Parents want their kids to be happy in life, so just tell her it should be enough for her to know that you are happy just the way you are and aren't having a problem. If she continues after that, she may need to talk to someone about why she is obsessing on your weight. Good luck and take care!
2007-01-12 11:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy A, RN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow mothers daughters and weight issues, either you are not fat enough or you are to fat according to some Moms.
I think you are at a decent weight, and I would not worry about that per say which seems to be the case with you.
As for as your mother, you need to be open and honest. Mother, I love you and I want to spend time with you but I don't want that time to be spent talking about my weight. I feel that my weight is fine for my height and no one person fits in to one particular mold.
Honesty will sometimes ruin a relationship or it will help, it depends on the receiver. In this case though you need to let her know your feelings.
I had to do the same, the only difference is that I really am overweight and my mother felt that she was trying to help, but harping on someones weight does not help it really makes it worse.
2007-01-12 13:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On a doctors scale... Being 5'0 is a perfect weight for your height... You shouldn't lose anymore weight. Your Mom will leave you alone after a while, just show her she's not getting to you, ignore it, your not over weight. Maybe even say something to her... tell her it hurts your feelings when it's brought up, no Mom wants to hurt their child. Good luck!
2007-01-12 12:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your weight is fine. I don't know why your mom says you should lose weight. you can make your own decisions because you are 22, so tell you mom you are ok with how your body looks like.
2007-01-12 11:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by celinuchis90 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to her. If u do before u know it u will b anorexic. I am 5 feet 7 13 and I am 114 pounds so there u go
2007-01-13 14:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by Brand.New 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your mom is wrong. If you like your body, than stick with it. I am 5'2, thirteen years old, and I weigh 102...and then my ex-boyfriend tells me I need to lose weight. (When I was still with him.) That is one of the reasons I broke up with him. Any person that wants to try to lower my self-esteem isn't worth my time. That is what I go by.
2007-01-12 20:25:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you're 22. Grow up and tell your mother to back off. Then stuff a huge piece of chocolate cake in your mouth.
2007-01-12 11:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your "ideal weight" according to a few professional sights is 90-110, and your BMI is about 20. You are completely healthy!!! Go to a few websites and show this to your mom and tell her that according to doctors, you are perfect!
2007-01-12 12:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by giving. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her she has a problem and to stop forcing it onto you.
5'0 105 is just fine.
If she can't accept that then tell you you will stop talking to her.
2007-01-12 12:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by Barrett G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋