Is marriage the end of all the happiness?

Question

I had an affair with my girlfrind for more that 8 years, to be precise since I was in 9th and she was in 7th class. I went out of state for my engineering, got a job, settled and got married to her. It was really a dream come true for both of us as it seemed like the entire world is against our marriage. But now, it seems like we have developed different habbits, likings when we were not together for nearly 6 years. We no longer share any common likings, infact if I go north, she always has to go south. So, is marriage the end of all the happiness? Or there there is realy some work arounds....except a compromise!!??

Answer 1

oh marriage is like a test that you should pass, you have to keep on trying many different ways to have a solution, but unlike in shool test, you two will solve, not only one, and yes compromise, give and take and lots of patience is one big key, you cant run around that or else picture will look bad. did anybody tell you that marriage is easy?

Answer 2

It's all about compromise, if you are both willing to give each other interests a try it may work. You have to have an open mind, but if you can't then why stay together? This life is short may as well be happy!

Answer 3

well since you both met that young, you actually never had time to develop your own personalities, liking, dis-likings. Now 8 years later you both have developed your own individuality and personality nothing wrong with that, it part of growing up. Marriage is calls for compromises, and if your both not willing to make it, then yes its over.

Answer 4

I wouldnt blame it on marriage. But rather the strong possibility that you've both gained some maturity and outgrown each other.
Obviously neither of you are the same as you were in 7th and 9th grade.

Answer 5

you dont have to always agree or like the same things as longas you respect each otherspoint of view as all people change as they get older what you wanted 10 yrs ago might not be what you want now i think your big mistake is you didnt stay dating when you got back if you both feel like its not right and wont be happy maybe parting before children come along would be best and a strong friendship might ensue

Answer 6

no. marriage is not the end all and be all to happiness. unfortunately, the media and press paints a way different story from that of realtiy. you need to make life what you want it to be. you are responsible for your happiness. so if working with animals is your ultimate high and happiness in life...then go for it. don't let the media (or anyone else) try to influence what will be your ultimate happines in your life. you need to make that decision for yourself.

Answer 7

If you cant compromise with each other in your marriage, then yes its over. That is part of being married.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

YEP! It's the end of it all. Even sex! Sorry......