Just work out a signal......Who does what when including sex....
2007-01-12 02:51:01
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answer #1
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answered by troble # one? 7
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1. Prioritize and accept the order that you have set. If you value your time with your spouse most, give it top priority. Schedule cleaning days or stagger cleaning chores (tub today, kitchen floor next week, countertops the next, etc.). Schedule friend-time (e.g., "Let's go out, Friday the 19th").
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2. Shift your schedule elements. Reduce weekend hours or eliminate a work day. Sometimes we like to see an increasingly large number on the paycheck, only to realize later (if at all) that the things we really love to do (or people whom we love) have been crowded out of our lives. I suppose this is the same as "prioritizing", but here, I'm suggesting significant changes.
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3. Ask for your hubby's help. Share the chores (one third, to one half, or more if you can swing it). Get him interested in cooking. (Turn him onto the idea that guys are getting into cooking as a personal interest and "intellectual" pursuit. It's now in the realm of the "manly.")
Good Luck.
2007-01-12 10:57:16
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answered by RolloverResistance 5
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oh gosh, i think you need to prioritize..what is most important to you and go from there. I had a hard time realizing this but you dont have to talk to friends everyday and hang out even once a week to still be their friend. Once I got married my friends realized that I have other responsibilities now, most understood and some, well they needed time to grow up, but I still talk to them. Do what makes you happy and remember this doesnt make you a selfish person, just remember that you only have one life so do what makes you feel good...good luck, I hope this helps. PS- You husband is capable of helping around the house, if you are working then the same gender roles no longer apply...a marriage is a partnership.
2007-01-12 10:54:00
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answered by Heather 3
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I too am a nurse and i totally understand about your shifts being long and you not being able to fit everything and everyone into your life.
However, both you and your husband have to compromise on sharing house work as well as spending time together. Remember you work just as hard as he does so you both need each other to help adapt to these work hours.
You both sound like you love each other alot so I'm sure irregular working hours wont effect you both too much.
Good luck xxx
2007-01-12 10:55:34
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answered by anastacia500 3
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Tough isn't it? Does he get into helping you 'round the house? Can you work out a "deal" under which you divide up household chores--a kind of schedule that just HAPPENS to leave a good deal of unscheduled time for whatever fun and games the two of you decide on? It might include deals such as if he does the vacuuming he gets a little "reward" of his choice or some such thing.
2007-01-12 10:51:49
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answered by DelK 7
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You guys should share household chores so that you both can savor the little time you do have together and try to see your friends when he's working so that when you have time together you really can be together. Also, you should try to plan a mini vacation every once and a while just for a weekend or something to have enough time together to really enjoy it without having to worry about work issues.
2007-01-12 10:50:30
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answered by Michelle118 4
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Listen love, is he not capable of cooking a meal, doing the shopping or putting the cleaner around, stop feeling guilty your working just as hard as him, if not harder, your both entitled to a social life outside of the marriage, so enjoy the time you do spend together, and enjoy the time you spend with your mates, and stop feeling guilty !
2007-01-12 11:07:54
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answered by Anonymous
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organize a chart of time and chorse and see what you both can so when hes gone you can work on chours and vise versa for this to work you need to compromise, but so does he. It's what marriage is about partner-ship!
2007-01-12 10:51:08
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answered by Juleette 6
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good luck with that....if he doesn't contribute to the household chores then your issues are more than time-oreinted...discuss it frankly with him and see if he's willing to make his contribution....it's more than just him "helping" around the house, it's actually him making a contribution, holding up his end, so to speak (no pun intended, i know you're a nurse and maybe want to take his temp) :P
2007-01-12 10:52:07
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answered by an_articulate_soul 4
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try to find an hour together each and every day there is more to life than just work
2007-01-12 10:52:22
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answered by top cat 3
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