im might be pregnant and im only 14 years old continue...?

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okay im continuing with my question... but i dont even know what to do because ya i know my dad loves me but like its weird my parents are split up and like i tell my mother anything but this time its weird and my mother lives in the valley (south Texas) and that is 4 hours away from where i live and my dad and step mom always threatin me saying if i do anything stupid like they would send me back to my mom and i tell them that i dont care but then i cant leave my boyfriend and I REALLY DISLIKE MY DAD cuz he dont even let me HAVE A BOYFRIEND but i am not gonna listen to him i love my boyfriend and im real happy and my dad dont understand

well a while back wen my mom first found out that i wasnt a virgin she wanted me to be on the pill and i told my step mother about it and my step mom said no cuz that is like letting me have sex and thats not what she wants and my father thinks i am a virgin and i just know hes not that stupid and ive only been with 2 guys but like the first was really the guy but turns out he wasnt and we had only did it once and the guy that im with that my dad dont like we have been together for a long time i sneak out just to see him cuz it feels like JAIL wen living with my dad he is VERY strickt and like everyone where i live is scared of him like EVERYONE i live in a small town like SMALL and im always hiding that i have a boyfriend my step mom and mom know well every one BUT my DAD he found out on the day i got BUSTED with him and now my dad wants to KEEP me from My Boyfriend and i cant just do that to the boy i love and no im not ready for a child but its my fault i let it happen.?!

and i am real cool with my boyfriends parents and DONT WORRY im gonna stay in school IM IN ROTC and i love it and my boyfriends sister is in it and shes a senior she helps me out alot but really guys yall dont understand i am scared of my dad!!!!! REALLY

Answer 1

Ok, let's get to business here. First call Planned Parenthood at 1-800-230-PLAN and find the clinic nearest you. You go get tested. If it's negative and you insist on having sex, talk to them about birth control right then and there! You don't need a baby right now! You need to have a life. If it is positive, tell your mom first since you seem more comfortable with her. The two of you could then talk to your dad. You need to address this ASAP. I think I'm sensing some hurt and emptiness in you. Trying to find a sense of belonging and love by having sex is not your answer, it just makes things worse. I was once where you are now. And a baby is a poor way to get love, they grow up and they are very needy. You need to find someone to confide in that you can trust, maybe a teacher, someone at church, a favorite relative...someone who will be there for you when your parents aren't...and no your boyfriend doesn't count cuz he's just a kid too. I am also concerned because you have had unprotected sex you should be tested for sexually transmitted diseases including genital wart virus. If you are going to be in a realationship you both need to be responsible for making sure you don't get pregnant. I'm sure all of your parents care about you, they may just not know how to really show it. Please call that number and get checked. You have a whole life out here waiting for you, don't lose sight of that! Take care and good luck!

Answer 2

First of all ,if u decide to keep the baby u must stop school inorder to raise it up.Babies arent goldfishes or cats,they are little persons that need special care and treatment.I also think that your friend is a jerk becaue he must have used codoms.I dont blame u completely.You are a litle girl that play with the fire and there is no one around to warn u

What i will say now is very bad but unfortunately is the true....In my opinion u souldnt keep the baby.IF u will u ruin 4 lives{yours mothers,fathers,babys and your own live.Stop thinking only about u and do something for the good of your family.I prupose u to drop it.

When u can raise a baby and u are at the proper age born as much babies as u want.

Answer 3

Well first I think that you should probably figure out if you are pregnant or not, that will clear your first worries. If you are, then you need to think about how you might tell your dad. Parent's normally do threaten about if you get pregnant this and this will happen, but then they warm up to the idea that a grandchild is coming in to there life. And I know what it's like not being with your boyfriend, my boyfriend actually lives in the valley. And I live 9 hours away from him. It is managable if it happens, but it's not easy. You'll need a lot of love and trust to get through it.

Answer 4

well now arent you in a jam? and had the nerve to be mad at dad !exactly the reason he didnt want you to have a boyfriend ya think??!! you better start doing some talking sweetheart to dear old dad & stepmummy.cause the 9 months pass quick. and youre gonna need some stuff for baby. for starters a home, & where are the parents of boyfriend? theyre gonna be grandparents now ya kno?think they might have a bit to say about this also?you have to make the ultimate decision but you need to get to talking to someone with some sense & hurry!have you got a dr yet?and maybe 4 hrs away from this doofus would be the very thing thats good for you. you cant think about what you want so much now. that baby has you & only you so quit feeling the feelings of a 14 yr old & start having the feelings of a mom. thats what you are now.MOM.wow 14 huh?you so need to get yourself & that miracle in your body some help.talk to your conselours at school. theyre not all mean.you have to help yourself help yourself sometimes. & this is one of those times. good luck sweetheart youre gonna need it.

Answer 5

First of all if your only 14 and having sex, you should of been smart enough to use a condom, and be on the pill, Basically 14 is way to young for sex. And since your only 14 you have no dashing on what your parents decide to do about whom you live with, I understand you may love you boyfriend but your not even old enough to support yourself, what you are doing to your family is unfair.

Answer 6

well you said your dad will send you back to your mom you just dont want to be over there because it to far away from your boyfriend right well i think you would be safer with your mom since your so scared of you dad and if your boyfriend really loves you he will find a way to go that far to see you and the baby just tell him cause hes going to notice when you start to get bigger don't hide you may be to young to be pregnant but its still a wonderful thing to experience so just tell him and move in with your mom good luck to you.

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Answer 7

First of all if your only 14 and having sex, you should of been smart enough to use a condom, and be on the pill, Basically 14 is way to young for sex. And since your only 14 you have no dashing on what your parents decide to do about whom you live with, I understand you may love you boyfriend but your not even old enough to support yourself, what you are doing to your family is unfair.

Answer 8

well first off find out if your pregnant. then talk to your dad. your his little girl and dad's don't want to see their little girls get hurt so he's only doing what he thinks is best for you. as for your step mom you don't have to like her but respect her because you never know when you'll need her to do something for you. going back to your mother's may be the best solution to your problem right now.

Answer 9

FIRST OF ALL YOUR DAD CARES WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU AND HE IS WORRIED ABOUT YOU, AND AFRAID SOMETHING LIKE THIS WOULD HAPPEN, YOU ARE SO YOUNG , YOU SHOULD BE THINKING OF SCHOOL AND TO GET AN EDUCATION, ARE YOU REALLY READY TO HAVE A CHILD, IS YOUR BOYFRIEND READY, IT IS A BIG RESPONSIBITY OF HAVING A CHILD. ITS NOT A DOLL WHERE YOU CAN JUST PUT IT ASIDE AND DO WHAT YOU WANT. I WOULD REALLY THINK OF GIVING YOUR BABY UP FOR ADOPTION. UNLESS YOU AND YOUR BOYFRIEND ARE READY TO TAKE THE RESPONSIBLITY OF THE CHILD. WHICH I REALLY DON'T THINK YOU ARE, BUT THATS MY OPIONION. TALK TO YOUR DAD. AND I WOULD TELL HIM BEFORE HE FINDS OUT ON HIS OWN. IT IS BETTER TO TELL HIM YOUR SELF. IF YOU WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE THEN DO IT. AND TELL YOUR DAD. AND TAKE THE WHATS COMING TO YOU. I DON'T MEAN TO SOUND HARSH, I JUST WANT YOU TO REAL THINK OF WHAT IS HAVING A CHILD AT YOUR AGE, AND HOW ARE YOU GOING TO SUPPORT IT. I WISH YOU NOTHING BUT THE BEST. GOOD LUCK. AND REALLY THINK.

Answer 10

You need to go to a school counselor about your issue. They are usually willing to help. You need an adult involved. I do understand your delima though, if you tell your Dad you may get sent back to your mother and you don't want that to happen, but a counselor can help you sort through all of that.