i am 20. im shocked to see how many adults think you're a loser if you're a virgin.people i know that are in their late 30's give me a hard time about this.i was just wondering why and if it's in the workplace is it sexual harrassment?
2007-01-12 02:23:11 · 22 answers · asked by debra 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It is definitely harassment if you're being taunted in the workplace.
You should be proud of your virginity. Perhaps the people who are giving you a hard time are insecure, or regret that they lost their virginity early (or at all).
Whatever you do, don't cave in to having sex just to please other people. Virginity should be celebrated. Good for you.
2007-01-12 11:19:22 · answer #1 · answered by trailangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people are harassing you in the workplace about your lack of sexual activity, then it is sexual harassment. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin at 20. I was 20 when I lost my virginity and aI know of people a few years older than me that are in a relationship and both are celibate until marriage.
2007-01-12 20:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chloe sweetie, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. And if they are people at work giving you a hard time because of that, it IS harassment only, not Sexual Harassment. However, both are illegal and immoral.
Don't EVER yield to peer pressure. You have the right to wait until marriage or until you think you are ready to give up virginity. Your co-workers may just be jealous and envious of your purity. That's why they are suffering.
2007-01-12 10:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by David G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WIth that kind of thing, you have to say something to the people making comments, otherwise whilst it might be sexual harassment in the strictest sense, it will be hard to prove. As to your own virginity, I think it's great you are making your own choices rather than being pressured, and those who are giving you a hard time probably just have no way to relate. Good luck!
2007-01-12 10:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm over 30 and I think the fact that you're a virgin is a good thing. I've talked to a lot of woman over 20 who have decided not to have sex just to do it.
So you may not have met others but believe me they're out there and you should do what makes you happy and to heck with other people.
You've made a mature decision for yourself ....now be mature enough to not care what others think about that decision.
2007-01-12 10:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's probably not a good idea to tell people at work about your sex life (or about being a virgin).. keep it to business only
i am a 33 yr old virgin, bi sexual.. but i just don't see any reason to go around flaunting or bragging about my status..
nothing wrong with being a virgin.. i think people are actually jealous of virgins. so many people regret having teenage sex and with they could take back when they did..
stay a virgin until you find the right person to do it with.. save it for love.. it will totally be worth it.
but yah, any unwanted comments about sex or sexuality at work would be harassment. i'd file a complaint with your manager.
2007-01-12 12:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's rediculous. If they're intelligent and respectful people they wouldn't be saying anything, or would be lauding your choice. If they are doing this in the workplace it would definitely be sexual harassment. They likely do this because they are insecure with themselves and need to tear others down to make them feel better. Good luck, and sorry.
2007-01-12 11:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by straightup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are just jealous, you wait until you are ready, there is no shame in that, and you will probably respect yourself more than they respect themselves in the long run. As far as it being sexual harassment, well it is some kind of discrimination, they shouldn't be bugging you about your sex life at work, that is inappropriate. If it really bugs you, speak to a superior about it to see what their personal opinion is on the matter. They can help you out more readily than we can on answers.
2007-01-12 10:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by gypsyiiiis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Screw what they say. Virginity is the one thing that once lost you can never get back. I'm 40 & my 25 year old cousin makes fun of me too because I've only been with 3 people but I don't care what he says. Try not to let people bother you although I'm sure it's hard
2007-01-12 10:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably iffy about the sexual harassment claim.
I would ask: WHY DO THEY EVEN KNOW THIS?
Answer: You told them or make a big deal about it in conversation.
Reminds me a of a girl in college I knew, she was always putting it out there she was a virgin, like it was her claim to fame. It is your choice, and nothing to be ashamed of. I would keep the mouth shut about it though. You have no basis to ***** if YOU bring it up! This also means no judging others on their escapades either..right or wrong in your mind. If you come down on them, refer back to line one on this post...you are just as guilty.
2007-01-12 12:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋