but my parents wont accept if i decided to be with him.
2007-01-12 02:09:23 · 24 answers · asked by jerica 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You have both made bad choices and now you're both going to have to make tougher ones based on your actions.
You love him, but did he not love you enough to wear a condom? I'd rethink this whole thing, even having his baby if I were you.
However, I think that you were too weak to make the right choices at the right time, and you will most likely be too weak to make the right choices now. The question you need to ask yourself is, am I going to continue to be selfish and ruin my unborn child's life, or am I going to grow some gonads and do the right thing?
Your choice. We can't live your pathetic life for you.
2007-01-12 02:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by It's Me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're in love with a married man.
You are pregnant and will soon become a single mom.
You are concerned what your parents will approve of in your life.
Okay. That's what we're working with and you want to know what you will you do.
Be sure he knows he's going to be a father soon. Talk to him about it. Your parents sound like smart people who are wisely looking at the big picture, not blinded by love like you my dear.
You should try to deal with first things first: the health of your baby. Beyond that try to think of the future: is it healthy for you to try to be with someone who is committed in Holy matrimony with another woman? Do you want better for yourself?
Seek counsel through prayer. Congratulations on your pregnancy. All babies are a gift, honey. Best wishes to you. I hope you do the right thing from here on out. Don't be manipulated by a foolish heart nor by that man you love. Think about your child. You're all she's got.
2007-01-12 10:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married, I divorced because my EX was cheating. I later began dating a girl that was pregnant and involved (she was cheating on her boyfriend with me which makes me a bit of a hypocrite.) I helped raise her child until she was 2 years old, then she cheated on me and we broke up. The moral of the story, if he is cheating now, he will probably cheat again. Don't make your decision based on your parents. You have to live your life. But people have tendencies and those tendencies dont just disappear. I have a tendency to pick the wrong women. This guy is cheating. Will he cheat again? We don't know, but you have to think about that. Especially with a child involved. I had no problem leaving my ex wife when she cheated, but leaving my ex girlfriend was awful. (Because of the baby.) Think long and hard about what you do.
2007-01-12 10:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by lee g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant decide to be with him as he is already taken!!! If he wanted to leave his wife he would have done it already. Don't be a foolish girl you need to realize that you have a baby growing in you and take care of that baby first, tell him you are gonna have to ask for child support and I bet he will drop you like a hot potato.But that makes no difference as you will need to do it anyway. Realize that if he has kids from his marriage you and he have screwed up thier lives for ever. Do you think his wife will stay with him after he has to pay you child support? No and he wont probably be with you either and if he was here is the big question-COULD YOU EVER TRUST HIM SINCE HE SCREWED AROUND ON HIS WIFE WITH YOU -HE WILL SCREW AROUND ON YOU TOO!!!
2007-01-12 10:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Carry the baby to term, file for child support, or put it up for adoption.
In the mean time, work on developing some self worth and confidence. You shouldnt be stupid enough to get tangled up with married men looking for sexual release. That makes you worthless, and your child less than. Its not a life anyone should willingly walk into. Try finding someone who can treat you like you ought to be treated. Like the one and only, not the side dish at a boring buffet.
You owe that to yourself, and more importantly to your child.
2007-01-12 10:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Funny how you think it's up to you or your parents to be with him.
Hey I have a question Why don't you ask his wife?
You're every guys dream. Just someone to F*** without all the baggage of a real relationship.
This guy probably tells you EVERY thing you want to hear but without the actions to his words they mean nothing.
Look,abort the baby and get yourself a real boyfriend.
2007-01-12 10:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by psych0bug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...his wife probably wouldn't be too keen on it, either.
I'm sorry you're in this fix, but honestly, love has little to do with it anymore. You're going to be a mother, and that means your focus has to be on the pregnancy.
If this man was willing to cheat on his wife to get you pregnant, he'd do it again. Even if he divorced her to be with you, could you ever honestly trust him not to cheat on you?
At this point, you need a stable, reliable place to be, not drama. It sounds like your parents are on your side, so that's your best option. Find a place in your heart for gratitude, feed that positive emotion, and let the heartbreak go.
2007-01-12 10:19:58 · answer #7 · answered by KD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unless he is of a different nature of man i'd get settled into being a single parent. dont mean to be hard but youve made a hard life for your own self. getting involved with a married otherwise attached male is not a good thing. but you probably already know that by now.your parents are who youre gonna need in a bit. he probably will come up with every excuse known to man to not be by your side. they always do. i did a dumb thing once & got involved with a married guy. i loved him like no other. & he loved me until his wife left him & we moved in together & then the next conquest came along. you have a brand new being inside of you right now. you should only be thinking of how this child can benefit from mommys actions.let your parents be with you. yes it gets lonely & cold & dammit you just want to be held sometimes! but now you got to think of baby.the man your involved with is obviously not very responsible or you wouldnt have gotten preggers. of course it takes two. but one of your two was already hooked up with someone else when you got this way.so responsible i dont think he is. & you? do you want the child being a halftime child to a man? cause swetheart youre a halftime girlfriend.dont want to be hard but its a hard life youve made for yourself just now.but be brave & talk to God. & for the love of God dont buy into his sweettalk that man will lay on ya!! good luck swetheart & God bless. youre gonna be a mommy!!wow! congrads.
2007-01-12 10:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by ginger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why did you get involve with a married man and now you are pregnant i cant tell you what to do about the baby because you are the one who has to live with that one but the baby if you have it did not ask to be bought into this world and you need to lose the guy because he doesn't love you no matter what he says to him you are just a booty call . my advice to you is take care of yourself god bless you good luck.
2007-01-12 10:20:38 · answer #9 · answered by BONITA J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry that u have ta go thru this but u need to figure out wats best for you killin a baby or being scared of his wife its him that mad the mistake unless u know about it from the beging but u gottta follow your heart and talk ta him beacause hes just as much responsible as u are and u need to find a sloution that u both will be happy with before its to late but either eay it goes someones feelings will be hurt just hope its not yours
2007-01-12 14:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by sha200805 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋