what do you think would be the ways to overcome extreme shyness?

Answer 1

Drink some hard liquor that should cure your shyness.

Answer 2

First, realize it's okay to be shy. I think we spend too much time finding fault with ourselves and challenging ourselves to be something we are not.

That said, if being shy stops you from reaching personal goals that you have, realize that by posting something on this board you've taken a step in the right direction. You're shy and yet here you are speaking to a very large audience!

Examine your true life goals. In the places where shyness is a problem, start with the ones that feel the least uncomfortable. Imagine yourself flying through the situation with ease - really focus on the details. Then find support and on a "good" day, give it a shot.

Most importantly, at that point, don't focus on what you did wrong or what you could have done better. Focus on the fact that you got past it and you did well and tell yourself that now you are not quite as shy. Keep giving yourself those messages.

If you can't get yourself to do anything about overcoming shyness due to extreme anxiety, you might consider chatting with your doctor to see if s/he might have some ideas.

Answer 3

To all thos who answered this question - unless you've ever experienced "extreme shyness" you really don't understand the feelings that someone who has this trait feels.
Putting yourself out there is exactly what you can't do because of the fear, anxiety, self consciouness....
My advice, which is what really helped me, was to sign up for toastmasters. I got in touch with the organizer of the group through email and told them I suffered fro extreme shyness. Not the usual shyness/fear of public speaking, but was an extreme case. We met just the two of us, and planned a toastmasters session with only a few people. We kept doing these sessions, while growing the audience I spoke to. It was hard but gradual so it really helped. After a while, I was able to go to a regular toastmasters meeting. I kept going to them and it really helps. I am not completly over my shyness, but it doesn't hinder my social life anymore - i have the skills to participate in a conversation or walk into a group of strangers and survive without a panic attack or anxiety attack. Check it out and get in touch with them...it really works!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Step 1. Go out into public and look 10 people in the eye every day for as long as it takes to feel comfortable with doing that. But you cant go home until you have done that daily.
Step 2. Go out into public and say "Hi" to 10 people every day for as long as it takes to feel comfortable with doing that. But you cant go home until you have done that daily.
Step 3. Go out into public and strike up a conversation with 10 new people everyday for as long as it takes to feel comfortable with doing that. But you cant go home until you have done that daily.

Then before you even realize it, you will be able to communicate with people without shyness. Shyness is a learned behavior. And boldness can be learned as well. Science has proved that it takes 21 days of continuous effort to start a new habit. But with a little perseverance, those days will fly by swiftly.

Good luck on overcoming your shyness, it will happen for you, if you want it to. I once was very shy too. But I decided that in order to be effective in my business pursuits, I needed to be able to talk to people.

Answer 6

Shyness is in the genes so you can't "get over it." but you can cope with it.

Try to focus on the other person as much as possible and don't think about yourself. This is the hardest thing to do but you must. Work on making the other person comfortable even if you are going into their environment. After all, s/he may be shy, too.

Smile and say, "Hi" to those people you will be around on a regular basis. Be sure to make eye contact.

All of this is hard to do, I know, but so worth it in the end.

Good luck, sweetie.

Answer 7

Don't think about being shy. Don't worry even the most outgoing people have moments where they don't know how or what there going to say to someone. If your approaching a large crowd smile someone will smile back and that will make you feel more comfortable to talk to them. If it's a specific person your trying to talk to just take a deep breathe and say something believe me the minute the first word comes out you'll feel relieved and happy.

Answer 8

I dont think there's any better way to get over anything then to put yourself out there and do whatever it is that you are trying to overcome. If you're shy, go out and meet people and if you absolutly cant do it by yourself take a more outgoing friend.

Answer 9

I was really shy when I was younger and am still a reserved person, but the way I got over being so shy was to put myself in situations where I had to talk to people. Eventually, I wasn't so scared or nervous.

Answer 10

get a job or join a group that would require you to be around and talk around people. unfortunately forcing yourself to just get out there is the easiest way.