2007-01-12 01:59:04 · 25 answers · asked by Andie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because they think they are in love but in these days personal happiness is more important than the stigma of a divorce. so people are getting divorced more often after a few years when they think the grass is greener on the other side.
2007-01-12 02:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we live in a throw-away society. CD player broke? Get rid of it. Computer on the fritz? get another. Marriage failing? Screw it...divorce and find someone else to warm your bed. And that is precisely the attitude. People cannot stand to not be with someone in their bed. But people today don't want to work to make the relationship grow. We are a country of "I want it and I want it now". Look at all the people that were pro-Iraq war. When the results of victory weren't immediately forthcoming...now try and find a pro-war person.
Most people don't understand communication is the key. that there are times you know when to back off and accept something in the relationship because it's not worth the fight and the time to put your foot down and say "Hey! No way". Most people here thing getting laid will solve everything. the "How can I surprise him and show that I love him?" always gets the graphic sexual responses or has some form of sex working it's way into the equation. Sex isn't the great cure-all. Oh sure...it's swell. Who doesn't enjoy it? But it isn't the tool that should always be used.
Ever notice how people are suspicious of one another as well? Of course the advent of computers, cell phones, text messaging, etc has compounded that. Communications are much easier then say in my day when I was young and carefree and playing my 8-track tapes at max volume in my 1975 Chevy Nova.
So you see.....good relationships require people to talk. To speak your mind. Which seems to be a problem with people who ask "How do I tell my husband/wife/bf/gf or even "ex" (what's up with that? That should be the very last person you should have trouble speaking your mind to.
2007-01-12 10:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutly nothing wrong with getting married young. I was 20 when I got married, and my marriage is great. A lot of marriages end in divorce because people like an "easy out" and dont try to work at anything anymore.
2007-01-12 12:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of young women get married because they feel it is a way out of the parents home and they can do as they please, some get pregnant and dont want to raise a child alone, some are just damn right stupid! After they are married they find out that the grass is not always greener on the other side...you know what I mean.. Marriage involves alot of hard work between two people who are mature and in love and know how to respect other people.. these young ladies and young men are not ready for all this responsiblity..
2007-01-12 10:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by browneyedonna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because lots of people grown up having no idea what marriage is, nobody ever talk with them about it nether parents or school or friends and church isn't in the picture...Not much good examples around either.
The Love is a gift from God, but then it's your personal hard job to make your marriage work.
Well, in this days, when you do not have to fix anything, just go and exchange or buy a new one, marriage got the same status...
Only after divorce people understood that marriage is not just stuff which you can exchange in the store....Fore a such exchange you have to pay by your life and blood.
2007-01-12 12:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has to be one of the easiest questions to answer! OK 1st off they are naive about what is out there and they feel safe thinking that the guy or girl they met in high school is their life mate because they don't know any better! 2nd after being in their adult life for a couple of years together they begin to wonder if this is really it! 3rd They finally realize that they made the mistake and want to LIVE alittle so that is where the divorce comes in. I truly believe that no one should get married before 25 so they have a chance to be free and enjoy that before they get into what is suppose to be a life long commitment!
2007-01-12 10:09:44 · answer #6 · answered by mrjamfy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason for the divorce is obviuos.When young people get married they are immature for one.They have no clue what it takes to maintain a marriage.They have no clue what marriage is even about other than you say I DO.They really don't know what love is and they think that sex is the answer for everything.The reason they get divorced is because they never should have gotten married in the first place.
2007-01-12 10:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They married young for many reasons such as they want to start early to have a family soon so they grow old with them.They don't know yet the pros and cons of marriage.They have hotter bodies being young,etc.They end up in divorce bec they are not yet matured enough to handle the responsibilities and challenges facing couples.
2007-01-12 10:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by ranya j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have been getting married young for years. Some marriage work and some do. Could be what the relationship is based on, issues going on with the individuals, lack of committment, too immature to handle a marriage, and more.
2007-01-12 10:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by No More Abuse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand either. All the people I know who got married in their late 20's early 30's are still happily married. The people i know who got married 18-23 are divorced.
2007-01-12 10:07:21 · answer #10 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they were too young to handle the realities of marriage. Plus, most of their parents are divorced, so they don't really have a good example of how to work problems out...they just run away from them instead.
2007-01-12 10:05:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋