It seems like each day I am finding out she has lied about something else, it's all small stuff but how do I know I can trust her?
2007-01-12 01:55:36 · 23 answers · asked by jenandkelly c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What kind of stuff are we talking about - the new pair of shoes she bought (even though she has 50 pairs already), or the nude pictures that she is sending out to someone called "Ramone"?
2007-01-12 02:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all hide some things from our spouse and I bet you do with her as well. It is normal if it is just small things. Like if my husband asked me how much did my shoes cost I may say 30 dollars when they were really $50. I end up telling him later on that I lied they were really $50 only because maybe he was not in a good mood the day that I bought them lol. It would depend on the lies that were told. If they were not coming home on time or things were not adding up right and they may be cheating or doing things that are going to hurt the marriage. I would have a talk with her and tell her how important it is to be upfront and tell the truth.
2007-01-12 11:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do women tell their husbands everything? Husbands tell their wives everything? Do they hide things? Most likely they do, for reasons that they know. Trusting in relationships, in that person, should be one of the most important thing that couple have between each other. One must confront the issues at hand, resolve them, be honest, or put up with it, or decide to trackle the issue. Counseling or a third party, when you want to talk about this to your spouse. Fear, guilt, and hurt could be reasons.
2007-01-12 10:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by No More Abuse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a great question that many of us, pretty much just gave up on trying to get an answer on or atleast try to make some sense out of it, but its useless. You might as well question- what came first the chicken of the egg? If your issue is just minor stuff, dont even sweat it- unless your dealing with infidelity that's a different story. But women will always be women and the boys will always be after them. Good luck!
2007-01-12 10:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess there are some things that are easier to deal with on our own... and not telling our husband is just a protection cause he gets too darn mad or upset about those things... It's like why stir him up and have to deal with it if I can handle it on my own? I am mostly talking about the everyday worries and stress... bills, small problems, etc... If it's a bigger problem and needs his help, then I would tell him. I don't consider it lying to him....
There are other issues that I don't tell him about because it's my own personal problems... or my kids' problems... He just can't handle stress at all... so I don't bother him!
2007-01-12 10:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by MaggieO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the small stuff can actually be something big....its so hard to live like that....no trust....i live it everyday...my boyfriend cant understand why i dont trust him....cause i catch him in these little lies.....but what is really behind these little lies.....why lie...if your not doing anything wrong....why??? you lie cause your hiding something either she knows you dont agree with or shes playing you....it should never be like that and its not going to work....been doing it for 6 yrs and it doesnt get better....once a liar always a liar.....im not telling you it wont change cause she might be sorry one day and change...but will you still trust her....the trust is already broken....good luck
2007-01-12 10:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by mspain719 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what she is lying about - if it is related to money & shopping - well, that is fairly common. Doesn't make it right, but a lot of women hide stuff like that b/c they feel guilty or are afraid of making their husband mad. A lot of my friends do that. However, I notice that men do their fair share of little white lies to avoid conflict as well. Its a common part of marriage, although it shouldn't be!
2007-01-12 10:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
husbands and wives shouldn't hide things from each other, even small things. you guys probably need counseling of maybe you need to get out of the marriage
2007-01-12 09:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by ladybug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't lie to my husband, lieing only creates more problem when someone lies about something over and over again the stories change and then you forget what you said the first time, and that is when you get nailed.
2007-01-12 13:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because husbands hide things from their wifes and there is a concern that the past will intrude on the present
2007-01-12 10:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋