Can anxiety do this to you?

Question

I was diagnosed with anxiety about a month and a half ago and I was put on a low dosage of an anti-depressant (Effexor) anyways, my anixety was leading me to believe that I had fallen out of love with my boyfriend. Every little thing he did irritated me but I was still attracted to him, wanted to spend time with him and wanted to do nice things for him. eg, bring him hot chocolate at work, make him dinners

Now it is a month and a half after all of this and I went to the doc's yesterday. He put me on a higher dosage but I still have those thoughts.....I think it might be my anixety convincing me that I am indeed falling out of love with him. I mean we are going away for the wknd tonight and I am very excited...I still like doing those things with him but my anxiety doesn't leave my side although he is being very understanding about it....

So what I am asking is can anxiety lead your mind to believe these thoughts?

Hopefully it will get better with the higher dosage.

This anxiety all started over night. 4 days before this I wrote him a list of 101 things I loved about him and that was my true feelings...So this didnt happen because he did anything wrong to me. He is a great guy with a huge heart and is very good to me...I just want to get rid of these feelings and I am hoping I am not just falling out of love with him..How would I know if I was or not?

Answer 1

yes .... anxiety does lead your mind into believing things. Take the high dosage it will get better. I have been there and been through it .. mind led me to think I was having a heart attack and I was in and out of the hospital all the time - I take effexor too and it has really helped alot.

Answer 2

It may take some time to get your medication at the right level. You shouldn't make any big life changing decisions right now until the medications get into your system and you get the right dosage for you. Anxiety can cause your mind to do a lot of things. The best thing to do is to give yourself some time and see how your feelings change or don't change. Only time will tell if you are falling out of love or just experiencing side effects from the anxiety. Along with the medication, counseling can be a great help with your feelings of anxiety and help you work those feelings out. You may want to consider it. It really does help.....I say this from experience.

Answer 3

Anxiety can cause many little things to irritate you and these things can be amplified 1000 times but I have never heard of anxiety ,making you feel you are falling out of love. The higher dose may help with the anxiety but remember that most people require a few weeks on the medication before it really starts working. If you are taking anti-depressants I hope you have also considered some form of counseling because I feel there maybe more going on here than just the anxiety.

It is important to talk with your doctor about any strange feelings you are having related to the anxiety, because the medication maybe the wrong one for you and something else may need to be taken.

Answer 4

That sounds like a sad situation to presently be in; you have my sympathies and best wishes that things improve. I hope your weekend away does you some good..

Anyway, I used to suffer from depression myself a couple of years ago and was put onto anti-depressants (citalopram i think). My dose kept going up and up and I was getting all kinds of crazy thoughts coming from all angles. My attention span & short-term memory was shot down. I kept getting paranoid about things, and drowned in the thought that everything was to good to be true (to the point where I wasn't believing what anybody was saying anymore).

Some of the thoughts and ideas developed over this drugged up time linger today, but much much less than when I was on the meds.. I suggest if neccesary (if the higher dose doesn't help or in fact makes things worse) alternate means to help treat your anxiety. The best cure for my depression (the reason I gave up anti-depressants and got over it) was meditation, plain and simple.

This involves sitting in a quiet peacful place comfortably (on a cushion or something) with a straight back and breathe slowly and naturally thru your nose, keeping count of each breath in and out (breathe in, 1, breathe out, 2, breathe in, 3, breathe out, 4...etc..) and continue until you count to ten and start over, if you get distracted by other thoughts then start over again at 1. I find calm soothing music, candles and insence halp greatly with the experience. Once you are very calm you can stop counting the breaths and just pay attention to them, whether they are deep or shallow, fast or slow. Try setting aside 15-20 minutes a day to do this (perhaps the best time is after you have awakened in bed or in the evening).

I try to do it for two half hour sessions a day and it really has helped me out and brought a great improvement in my quality of life and sense of well-being.

Other than this you should watch your diet, make sure you are having lots of vitamins each day and not too much sugar or caffene. Exercise helps too.

If you can get over the anxiety without the need for pills or medication then you will know for sure how you feel about your boyfriend (using meditation you may also learn and discover deep things, such as the source of your anxiety and what triggered you to feel the way you do about your boyfriend, and what exactly you love about him).

I hope this helps and things get better.

Mike

Answer 5

I have never had anxiety but one of my friends do and they always seem depressed and worried. I have noticed that even if she dont have anything to be sad or worried about she still is worried, and I wonder if maybe she doesnt worry so much that she starts worrying about stuff that isnt even true. AKA you thinking that you fell out of love with your boyfriend, see what I mean. Do you think that you are just worrying about stuff and thats just something that came into your head. Maybe your just paranoid too because I am that way sometimes. I'm really not sure but I know my friend worries alot and sometimes its about stuff that she has just came up with that she really shouldnt be worrying about. I would just hang in there and keep loving your boyfriend and I'm sure the doctor knows whats best for you!

Answer 6

Oh yes it can. I suffer from Panic disorders/anxiety (it is a chemical imbalance). Your mind is all over the place. Dont worry too much about the way you feel until the tablets kick in. Also remember anti depressants also suppress sexual appetite. He seems to be your friend as well, which is very important. Be patient and dont make any rash decisions at the moment. You will be fine. Dont stop your tablets please, until the doctor says its okay. Good luck.

Answer 7

Being on anti-depressants can have a effect on relationships unless the person not on them has a full understanding that you are going through these problems. With the right support system all should be well. Good luck this weekend.

Answer 8

There is no true Doctors that can fix the brain as what brings on this type of nerve disruption is a lack of exercise or a lack of a proper diet and allergic reaction to some thing .Be very careful on taking drugs as they do more damage to the brain by stoping certain chemicals being produced by the brain and can lead to brain damage .A lot of chemist's drugs cause brain damage and are emune system disruptor's.

Answer 9

I have anxiety also,I did not know for 20 years.What I would do is write in a notebook and keep track of all the feelings you have,it will help you keep track and maybe there's something that throughs your panic into high gear.Good luck and I hope things goes better for you.

Answer 10

it is the chemical imbalance that causes these feelings of confusion. i'm currently struggling with a great deal of all this. i dont quite understand it myself but i can tell you, you're not alone! i was SO in love with my man. he went to great lengths to be with me and he is so nice and will do anything for me. i'm now almost 4 months pregnant by him and have a history of bi-polar disorder and anxiety. my anxiety is through the roof lately and my moods quite frankly really suck. i love him but sometimes (a lot actually) my brain goes out of its own way to be mean to him and say hurtful things. i dont know the reason for this, but it happens. its a chemical imbalance. i dont know if the feelings of falling out of love are gonna go away or not.... or if you truely arent as in love with him as you thought.