Is it ok to?

Question

to have a male friend to talk to about everything if my husband isn't to big on communication. and I also have female friends but I like to talk to my male friend to get his opinion on subjects { you know a man's side of what ever the subject is, is this ok?}

Answer 1

Definitely not. You married your husband while he still wasn't communicative then, so there must be a reason you married him.
Having a male friend in whom you can confide & communicate with will only lead to you & he getting closer to each other emotionally.
This will lead you to believe that you & he have a "connection" between you, and you will start comparing his qualities against your husband's faults.
This will lead to temptation on both your parts; and then to infidelity.
As the saying goes, "If you put another man up to bat, he's going to take a swing eventually".
Stay with your female friends.

Answer 2

NO!

If your husband also knows him, can be right there and the three of you interact together then it's cool. The problem arises when you are talking to this man and your husband...

1. Does not know about it.
2. Is not aware you are talking about things that you should only be discussing with your husband.
3. Is not aware this man may have been a former lover.

There are things in a marriage NO ONE should know about except you two. Not parents, siblings, children or friends. There are people that are friends of a marriage and then there are those that there should be a clear barrier between them and your marriage.

You are setting yourself up to have some REAL problems in your marriage. You are setting yourself up to get in a situation that could lead to an emotional affair or a sexual one (or both). If you are providing intimate details about your relationship with your husband to another man, you could be revealing weaknesses in your marriage he can exploit or YOU can exploit.

Expect a VERY pissed off husband that may NEVER trust you again if you continue to do this.

Don't take my word for it. Talk to a shrink or marriage counselor. Any one with common sense will tell you something similar to what I just stated.

Answer 3

YES of course why not ?? As long as you are not sneaking around and being secretive behind your husbands back and you are up front about your friendship, l don't see a problem. Your husband must also trust this guy though. Yes l think it is good to get a male's point of view on some things. It has to be a two way street though. How would you feel about your husband discussing things with another woman ?? There must always be trust in any marriage for it to work. Good luck

Answer 4

I feel that it is OK only on very generic questions, otherwise, you are wrong to bring another man into your marriage. The fact that your husband is not big on communication is a common trait of most husbands. You should be very careful about what you share with friends, seek professional counseling for yourself and your husband, in order to establish better communication. But friends and co-workers should not know all of your business

Answer 5

I truely believe that men and women can be just friends. But if either of them fancy the other then that is not just being friends. If you or he feel nothing other than friendship towards each other then yes he can be your best friend but if you have feelings towards him then end your friendship before it finishes your marriage. I think you need to get your husband to communicate more with you. Are you spending enough time with your husband? He may feel left out and jealous of the time you spend with your male best friend.
How do you think you'd feel if it was your husband who had this great friendship with another woman?

Answer 6

Does your husband know about him. Don't keep secrets and you won't have problems. I have male friends that my husband knows I talk to, and it isn't a problem. If he found out I was doing it behind his back, we would have issues. Vice Versa. Are you doing anything that you wouldn't like him doing?

Answer 7

I would say yes IF your intent is only to discuss subjects as a friend; you're being totally honest with your husband regarding this friend; and, you're not complaining about your husband to him.

Answer 8

as a male i have female friends and wife is okay about it i have one female friend who is married and her husband thinks its ok we have been Friends for about 5 yrs and we are like brother and sister if you are attracted to person and cant get over this hurdle it probably wont work

Answer 9

I would say yes. I've never married (enough prospects) but I have had plenty of boyfriends though. I don't see anything wrong with it unless it turns into something else which you don't want. But if he does confront you about it, let him know truthfully why you ask another male.

Answer 10

just because you are married does not automatically ban you from opposite gender friends. some of a womans best friends are men. if you cant be friends with men and women get out of that relationship. no one can tell you who you can and cant have for a friend.