Today it's the norm for couples to move in and live together years before marriage. I myself lived with my husband 6-1/2 years before we were married. I'm curious to know what others think of this practice. Please state your opinion on this issue below.
2007-01-12 01:01:16 · 15 answers · asked by luvbean_xo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I never lived with my husband prior to marraige and once we lived togther, it was not good. SO, after my divorce I said I would NEVER marry without living with someone first. That was the best decision for me. Twice I have called off engagements because I saw how they really were and found out that the way they portrayed themselves while dating was not the "real person." One hid alcoholism from me for close to a year but when we moved in together he could no longer hide it. He was violent and mean. I NEVER saw this side until we moved in together. I am soooo glad I chose to live with him before marriage. The second one was a pathelogical liar and I was not aware until we lived together. He was able to cover when he had his own place but once we were together 24/7 his lies were being exposed and I was able to save a lot of grief. I would have married him if I had not lived with him and it would have been awful. Although it may not be socially appropriate, I feel it is a good idea to live with someone before marriage.
2007-01-12 01:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by luvtheMarines! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think that living together before marriage is a good idea, but then I started to hear about all of the couples who would live together for more than 2 years, get married, & then still end up in divorce court.
So what did they do different after the marriage?
You would think that all of the issues that a couple might encounter would have come up while they were living together, but apparently not.
So I now think that couples considering marriage would be better off sitting down & talking through all of their expectations of each other, both long & short term, & working things out before even a trial marriage takes place.
2007-01-12 01:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did live with my husband for a year before we were married but I have become a Christian and now I know that it is now right to live with someone before marriage.
Personally, I think that it living together first takes a lot away from the excitement of marriage.
If I could go back then I would definitely not have lived together or had sex.
My Husband also agrees.
2007-01-12 01:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is good to get to know someone before you marry them, but don't take too long... I have jumped into marriage before after dating for 1 year and living together for 2 and we just divorced last month. My opinion is there is no right way.
2007-01-12 01:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by djeq8069 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wonderful boyfriend and I have been living with each other for about 3 years now, and I see nothing wrong with couples' living with each other before marriage. Marriage I think is so overrated today, if you love someone and your happy you don't always need that marriage certificate to say you are together forever!
2007-01-12 01:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by Tommy's_Sweet_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I actually think its good to live with someone before marriage. You can get to see everything you need to see, before making that big jump into marriage. I think the biggest problem with most people is they have a huge expectation level going into marriage and then they find out what reality is and they suffer a huge dissapointment.
2007-01-12 01:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together is fine if you are not religious..But f course certain religions say that you have to be married you know or youll go too hell.....But you do get more money back at the end of the year if you7r married :)
2007-01-12 01:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's the way it should be done. If the two of you live together and don't get along, then when you actually walk down the aisle and get married, it wouldn't be good for either one of you! Kind of like a trial and error type thing.
2007-01-12 01:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what u done it the right way 2 many people i losing there young life's such as being a teenager or even in there 20s i feel people should have fun b4 they settle down and if they where your true love there most likely to *** back 2 after witch is even greater then think in all of your life what if
2007-01-12 01:27:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 21:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by hinch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋