My 3 month old needs to sleep in her own crib...PLEASE HELP!!!?

Question

My 3 month old daughter saw the doctor yesterday and she is a more advanced 3 month old and so the doctor said she can no longer sleep in her bouncer because she could flip it over and not in her bassinet because she can flip over and is starting to pull herself into a sitting position. She has been sleeping with me and her doctor really wants her in her own crib, but when I try to do this she gets soooo upset she makes herself throw up. Please please please help me. I have tried everything.

Answer 1

I have 3 kids and I understand exactly what you are going through! My first one was the same way. I resigned myself to doing whatever it took so everyone could get sleep at night even if it was not the norm. Then I found out about Dr Sears and his book "Nighttime Parenting". I highly recommend this book for all parents. If you can't get the book, visit his website at Ask Dr Sears. (He is a very wise father of 8 with a wonderful wife and the are also both in the medical field too. Plus he wont make you feel stupid bcs he made parenting mistakes along the way too.)

Even if your Dr isn't crazy about baby sleeping with you, it is a safe and effective choice, and ultimately you are the one who needs to make the best decision for your family. Listen to your baby. You clearly have a baby that needs more contact with you (especially associated with sleeping) so do what feels right. The unspoken communication between mother and baby is based on instinct & intuition and if you let it be your guide you can't go wrong.

Answer 2

There is a logical time for a child to begin sleeping in their own bed. It is 9 months after conception. She has learned to manage you. She does what works for her. At three months I could put my daughter into a crib while she was asleep, but perhaps your child has learned to wake up in response to that motion. Everything you have tried has taught your daughter that she can work around any plans YOU might have. Good luck. You have painted yourself into a corner. Do you breast feed? If so you might try a weak alcoholic drink before breast feeding as a mild sedative for both you and the child. I am supposing it is just the two of you... If I had that problem (and I wouldn't) I think I would try spreading a sleeping bag on the floor, and lieing there with the child, reading to her, etc, and sleep there. When she gets soooo upset, there must be something you can do to cause her to refocus. I would try a very cold sopping wet washcloth- or a splash of cold water in her face. Anything less would be rewarding the tantrum. Good luck.

Answer 3

i know this will be tough but you're just going to have to bite the bullet for a couple nights, put her down in the crib and keep her there. stay with her, talk to her, sing to her, and/or put a hand on her chest to let her know you're still there (my personal favorite), but if she has to go in the crib, she has to go in the crib.

i don't know how long you've been trying (either in calendar days or in minutes per night) but if you hold firm each night, after a few nights it should get better. kids are amazing at being able to adapt to new situations given the chance (or forced to make the change!). without knowing all the details it seems like she knows that after crying and throwing up she'll get put back in a bassinet or more familiar sleeping arrangements.

it's amazing how fast kids (even 3 month olds) learn cause and effect. plus 45 minutes or more of crying (as long as it's not crying for some other reason) should get her good and tired!

good luck!

Answer 4

Do you have 14$ to spare?If so, google Ookie babys first doll.
My now 4 month old had the same problem.A lady that works with my husband gave me this doll as a baby shower gift, and I never used it.I read the directions, and started putting it with her when she went to sleep , and put her in her own bed.She now sleeps through the night, but I must admit, It took a few nights.
The directions on the box the doll came in say to sleep with it, or put it inside your shirt for a few nights.Your scent will transfer, and will last longer than if you were to use a shirt or a piece of fabric.
The dolls are really cute, totally fabric with satin on the edges.There are no eyes or anything that will come off and be a hazard to your little girl.
Hope you are able to give this a try.It has really been a Blessing in this house!

Answer 5

It will be hard at first but they usually adjust in 3 days. I have never heard of letting a baby sleep in a bouncer !! Does this mean she's been essentially sleeping sitting up for 3 months? If so, you may have to elevate the head of the crib mattress for a little while until she gets used to the crib then slowly lower it until it's flat.
Monitor her so if she does vomit you can clean her up but put her right back in the crib. DO NOT let yourself give in or it will be even harder as she gets older.

Answer 6

Well the first no-no is letting her sleep with you. I know how easy it is to get in that bad habit of letting them sleep with you but its not healthy for either of you. But many mothers do that, so don't feel bad. I think the best way to soothe her would be to start off putting her in her crib and staying in the room with her till she falls asleep, keep letting her know your there by touching her hands, rubbing her face, do this for a while then slowly limit the touching for less and less until you can put her in there alone. My little girl sleeps in her basineet alone, and I have no problems, I use music to soothe her, and it works, she has always fallen asleep on her own since birth, but when she doesn't want to sleep I hold her hand, and it calms her. Hope it helps

Answer 7

Oh my goodness, I remember the days! First of all, she's a pretty smart little girl and has you totally figured out. She knows how to get your attention AND how to make you give in to her.....what a blessing (really it is!!!). The best way to move on to a good night sleep for both of you is to start small. Put her in her crib. Speak softly to her (always when she is in her crib to go to sleep). Always keep your eyes semi-open....she will learn this is quiet time. After you shut the door, listen and wait 10 minutes before you go in. (Certainly if she throws up when crying, go in, change sheets and clean her up, but put her back again without any normal 'daytime' interaction) The next time you wait outside, do it for 15 minutes before you check on her. The next time 20 minutes and so on and so on. It's hard, but YOU be the controller, not her. I can't fault you for how you did it before, all great moms here and there make the same mistake, but you now have the knowledge to get passed this part of her life. Trust me, there'll be more and for a long time. Take a deep breath, give yourself some patience, Lord knows you given her lots of it. Tell yourself you can do this.....YOU"RE GOING TO SUCCEED!!! Good luck and remember, if you mess up just a few times it's OK. If you keep messing up, start over from scratch. Good luck!!!!! but I think you'll do a great job!

Answer 8

Is her crib in your room? Move it there if not. Also, tightly fit one of your larger Tshirts over mattress so she can smell you. Though she is crying, it will only last a few days until she gets used to being in her own bed. She's ONLY three months and already acting like this!!!!!!!!!!! Imagine her in even just 3 more months!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is why I have NEVER let any of my children sleep with us. It is devastating on THEM. Poor little thing. It will be hard to hear her cry but so long as you know she is clean, fed and burped, know she will be fine. Do it NOW before it it's too late.

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Answer 9

I used to hold mine (I have two boys 17 and 13 now) until they would go to sleep, then put them in their bed and pat their backs til they went back out again. It never spoiled them, like people say it will, I think it gave them a sense of security. I also used to sing "the twelve days of Christmas" to them (such a long wonderful song) they would be out before I reached the 6th day! If she does cry and throw a fit, it's best (I know it's difficult to go through) to let this happen. She will eventually realize that her bed is for sleeping. But it is best to make sure they are in a "sleepy state" before putting them to bed.

Hope this helps.

Answer 10

3 months is youthful to go away her crying. in my opinion, i do no longer think of infants youthful than 6 months must be "crying it out." in case you do attempt it, do no longer permit her bypass longer than a million-a million.5 hrs(that's what the cry it out human beings advise). you ought to purpose "sleep guidance" the place you teach her a thank you to nod off on her very own. it is going to take some weeks, notwithstanding that's greater efficient than leaving her to determine it out on her very own. it is partly our faults as new mothers and dads that we respond to each whimper rather of permitting them to assuage themselves, yet returned, 3 months is relatively youthful. i understand you're drained and that i understand you're approximately to tug your hair out, I had an exceedingly colic toddler. in case you finally end up getting annoyed then that's totally properly to place her interior the crib and bypass get a snooze collectively as she cries...in case you're able to do this. otherwise, I advise the two having her sleep with you for a month or so OR initiate sleep guidance. There are a ton of diverse approaches, so which you will ought to conflict by way of all those(or ask a chum what worked for her). I did the Ferber approach yet i understand women people who've had fulfillment with "Babywise" and "toddler Whisperer." cling in there mama...i understand you have purely approximately hit the wall notwithstanding it does get greater efficient, I promise. good success!