I need some advice on how to leave a dead marriage of 12 years. What is the easiest way to get out without creating a huge mess?
2007-01-12 00:43:42 · 8 answers · asked by finallyfree 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get your priorities in order, make sure you have cash, and a place to live gradually move your things out while your spouse is at work, and there is no easy way to do it.
2007-01-12 00:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you honestly want to leave for permanent or do you just need a break? Take some quiet time to yourself and make a list of pros and cons about the marriage. Who else is involved, any kids for instance? Have you tried marriage counseling, because in some people minds 12 years is definately a long time and it could be you just need a change in both of you. If it is just the two of you, it could go just a little bit smoother, but I would definately say, talk it out and express your self, preferably without yelling. Maybe a month or two apart could make a big difference, but you at least owe it to the 12 years to give it a huge try. People take marriage and relationships for granted so easily now, and then all you hear is how hard it is to find a good man or woman. Even every individual has to and needs to make a change in their personal look and job to help create a new you. What is dead about your marriage? What have you done to help improve it? Maybe the other party wants to make some changes, but is afraid of how you will perceive the thought. Pray on it, work on it and even cry on it, but don't just let the ship sink, without trying to stop up the hole! Best of luck to you and yours!
2007-01-12 00:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by notnew2U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, put one foot in front of the other and leave. If there are children involved, (especially young children) it is not quite as easy. However, I am not from the school of thought that you should stay in an unhappy marriage because of the children. You owe it to them to show them healthy relationships. Ending a marriage, by no means will be mess free. The more assets you have to dispute over, the harder it will be. It really depends on your individual situation. Good luck to you and enjoy your newly found freedom. You will cry, he will cry, but this too shall pass.
2007-01-12 00:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by trey_elise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is an easy way to leave a dead marriage. I think you should communicate to your spouse your intention (after checking into this with an attorney) and outline your plan of action to your spouse and then follow-thru
2007-01-12 00:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing i would do if i were you is seek help and counseling for yourself and for this marriage... Why is it so dead and have you talked with your spouse about this and how you are feeling about things and that you want out... I recommend you do everything to work on this marriage and trying to save it before seeking to get out!
2007-01-12 00:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know your situation better than us will there be violence,are there kids involved . you need to have a financial plan ,a place to go . Seek an attorneys advice. you must think think things through if it can not be resolved the marriage
2007-01-12 00:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each local court house usually has an arbitration center were you can work out the details.
2007-01-12 00:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the reverse of the day when you walked in.
2007-01-12 00:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋