i feel constantly sick, my son asks when his daddy will be home. i have to explain that daddy has been taken by the angels, to the sky now. i want to die and be with him- but i cant leave my son!
2007-01-12 00:09:23 · 24 answers · asked by SARAH M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Speak to a counsellor, you won't get any serious answers on here, My thoughts are with you.
2007-01-12 00:14:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to live and survive FOR your son. He needs your strength now. I am so sorry that your husband is gone. I don't know how I would react if that happened to me. But, Please, you will be okay, I promise. Be strong. Grief is a terrible thing. It makes you feel so horrible. Think of your son, what would he think if you left also? Continue on and make your husband proud of you. I am sure he is watching over you and wants you to be all right. You have a very important gift from your husband right in front of you. Love him like there is no other. Talk to friends and family. I am sure that you are not the only person feeling this way now. Others have lost him too. Gather your strength and move forward. It is going to be a long hard road but you can do it. Good luck to you and God bless.
2007-01-12 01:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you. I would suggest you see a bereavement councillor you can talk to them and there will be other people who are going through the same thing , you will be able to support each other.
My father was killed in he was hit by a car in S-Africa by a person who had no license, no third party and the person got off scott-free.
My mother had us, 4 children to take care of which she did very well. She carried her grief well , hid it from everybody and hence she is still grieving today , a long long time to grief. She has only recently got married again and is very happy.
You will get over your grief and your little boy will remember his daddy . I can still remember my dad and can clearly visiolise him, i think you should keep his daddy's memory alive and talk to him about him. My mom never did that and i wish she did.I still miss my dad.
I wish you well, may your guardian Angel always be with you and your little boy. Take care and good luck.:)))
2007-01-12 00:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that. My dad died when I was 6 and my brother was 4, I understood more than he did what had happened, but life has to go on - your husband would of wanted to you to be happy in your life and would want the best for both you and your son.
You wont forget what has happened but life does get easier I can promise you that. My grandad died as did my nan and I was so close to them both, but you do learn to cope - everyone copes differently.
I would concentrate all your remaining good energy on making your son happy for the time being - your own happiness will soon fall into place without you even realising it.
My mum spoke to the doctor and councillor when my dad died - and I think that really helped her.
No one on here can tell you what to do - nothing will make you feel better right now - other than your son.
I hope in time your pain eases and you can learn to laugh and remember the good times with your husband.
I am 26 years old now - my dad died 20 years ago - my grandad and nan died 8 years ago - I can promise you things do get easier.
Good luck and take care
xx
2007-01-12 00:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a time and season for all things. Time will lessen your pain. Death is all about US, not the people who pass. You have had something dear to you taken away, you find you are alone and the grief near unbearable..his time was finished for whatever reason but he leaves behind a part of him through his son. Cherish his memories, pass those loving memories to your son. Your husband is still very close. May God ease your pain!
2007-01-12 00:23:09 · answer #5 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never get over the death of your husband, but with time you will learn to cope with it and live your life. Your son is so young that soon he will stop asking, but do not let him forget who he was. Sit down every evening and as painful as it is tell your son a funny story about his daddy, something that will make you smile as much as you want to cry. And do cry, don't bottle it up. I imagine you feel terribly alone. If you want to talk to me, please email me and i will give you my private email address. We all need friends at times like this. Take care
2007-01-12 00:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by charlottelellis1980 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all sorry to hear about your husband that is a horrible tragedy. You might want to seek some councelling or go to a group where other people lost there spouse. You do need to be strong for your kids they are hurting just as bad as you are. Your husband would want you to move on with your life and not dwell on him leaving this earth. We only have one life to live and you need to live your life still and be there for your children. God can take us any time and it is so hard to have a loved one pass away before it is our time. Be strong and get help and god bless.
2007-01-12 04:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your Husband.I am sure it is going to be painfull for some time but for the best life for you and your son i suggest you go to counseling.There are very good qualified people who are out there willing to listen and talk to you.Just remember you have a son who you mad with your husband and who will carry on your husbands name and you can see your husband through him.Please go get some help and remember you are the only one your son now has.Good luck
2007-01-12 00:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by jpcbbc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may not be the right answer and I apologize now if it offends you.
I worked with a woman that lost her husband the same way but she did not have children and she said she wish they would have had a child so she could see him in her child. She went through about 4-5 yrs of depression and then met another wonderful man. She said she felt guilty at first but then she realized that maybe her husband brought him to her and she let go of the depression when she knew in her heart he would not want her to grieve this much.
She now is married and has a beautiful set of twin boys and yes she thanks God and her 1st husband for bringing this wonderful man to her.
2007-01-12 00:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. My husband died suddenly, and I know exactly how you feel. It's hard to be the survivor. Your son does need you, and you need him. You have to find someone to talk to, and possibly start on some medication. This situation is just too hard to handle on your own. If you do not take care of yourself, then who will take care of your son? Don't expect too much from yourself, it takes time. I wish you the very best, and I will pray for you and your son.
2007-01-12 00:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by GAgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you finding that your friends are not supporting you?
Does it seem that everyone else has just moved on already and forgotten your husband?
Take your little boy in your arms and hold him for as long as he is willing to be held and then cry and cry some more because you hurt so bad and talk and talk some more.
Remember you are okay and you will find the strentgh to carry on because you know deep down in your heart, that little boy needs to know who his father was and only you can teach him that.
2007-01-12 00:22:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋