Two people are in love, they shouldn't be because they are both married to other people, but we are talking real life here and these things happen. Right or wrong they have an affair but save your judgement you don't know all the facts (take too long to go into). They stop seeing each other for obvious reasons when the guys wife is diagnosed with cancer but after a few months when she was in remission they occassionally got together for coffee or a walk. They still love each other. Now his wife is dying, nothing can be done. The love between these people grew from a long and close friendship and the guy knows he can talk to her about anything and everything and get comfort, advise and understanding. but she knows that the situation is impossible which ever way you look at it. Her heart is breaking. What can she do?
Yes, you've guessed it it is me.
2007-01-11 23:29:17 · 7 answers · asked by ragdoll 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
apologies to those people who answered this before. I deleted and reposted the question to try to get rid of the gobbledegook that appeared under my avatar!
2007-01-11 23:31:33 · update #1
I sometimes think that people don't actually read the words written on the page... Our affair is over, our love and friendship isn't.
Many of you still judge without knowing the facts. How can you walk away from a friend in need?
No I didn't mention my husband My life with him is difficult but I cannot leave him for a whole lot of other reasons that I wont bother to go into because most of you have judged me already. I only hope that none of you find yourself torn apart in this way..... I'm human, I fell in love with someone ... I'm paying the price. I'm sure that makes you feel a whole lot better.
2007-01-12 23:07:04 · update #2
Not you Satin
2007-01-12 23:07:58 · update #3
i think that real love come in any time in any stage of human,s life so don,t make it difficult on yourself just try tostand with him until he cross this hard situation then ask your self if you love your husband if it is not so get divorced from him just for yourself not fo your lover or anybody else then if the fate don,t join both of you you should search for another love and another relealitionship but if you still love your husband even small quantity leave another person and you will forget him by time if your husband s agood person
good luck
2007-01-12 00:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the 1st thing "I" would have done was gotten a divorce!! If I am with a man I do not love then what am I doing staying with him..Is this all about you and the other man?? There are two other people involved (not to mention children, parents....).Him staying with her due to her illness is just wrong..he's not doing anything for her except being dishonest and deceitful (what a way to die..left totally in the dark)..and your husband surely deserves to move on with his life. I am not judging you for I do not know all circumstances but morally that's all I would need to rectify my transgressions for ALL involved.
2007-01-12 08:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have those things on mine too, glad someone else got it!! BUT, you shoudl be ashamed of yourself, I have and im sure everyone else one time or another that they are ashamed of. But this is different because youre both married, you know better, because you two stopped once before. YOu have no respect in my opinion for the wife that is dying or for yourself. And if you are married, you dont get into any relationship (friendship) that you know is blossoming into something else, youre married for heaven sakes, and that should stand for something.
2007-01-12 07:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad I'm not the only one. I thought I had a virus.
As I was trying to say before, don't worry about the dying wife but how about coming clean with your husband and then you will be free to support your friend and then you will find out if your love is real.
2007-01-12 07:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't read much at all about your husband. That you didn't write much should tell you something. I would suggest taking him into consideration.He IS your husband after all. And I would ask myself if I were you if I had a history of, or a pattern of "rescueing" people that are in painful or difficult situations. Take care what you do.
2007-01-12 07:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry that you are dying of Cancer, pray to God that he foregive your sins, and pray that you become a better person, and keep on doing what God wants you to.
P.S. Oh yeah and I have all those funny urls under my avatar too!!! Answers must be having some problems,, dont worry it will be okay
2007-01-12 07:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by uzair2987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do? You've already had an affair with this man,
obviously both of you don't have respect for a woman who is dying, where are your moral values?
2007-01-12 07:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by indie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋