Initially I was very nice person for all..people were taking me like role model..but later on because of misconception in mind I have committed many stupidities...not harmful but meaningless.Unknowingly I hurt somebody. Now I have realized my mistakes...even I have apologized for my mistakes. But I don't know whether that person has forgiven me or not.
I am unable to forget those stupidities and always feeling demoralize why I did such??
like..
whether that person has forgiven me or not??I am afraid t ask..
Please give me how to overcome from this problem??
I am feeling demoralize....
2007-01-11 22:54:45 · 8 answers · asked by nbgl 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can't change the past, only learn from it. Dwelling on the past in anger, or sorrow or joy is pointless because it has happened. Instead, use it for the powerful lesson towards the future that it it, is your mistakes to help you become a better person tomorrow.
You cannot control whether somebody forgives you, only whether or not you deserve to be forgiven.
2007-01-11 23:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overcoming or addressing your current problem depends on the original problem. The one thing that you must get straight in your mind is whether your action or inaction was, in fact, harmful or not...since, you say that your mistakes were not harmful but meaningless...yet you say you unknowingly hurt someone.
Take a step back from the situation...reassess your situation. You may find that you didn't really hurt that person as much as you thought you may have...they may have been more sensitive to the situation than was really warranted. We make our decisions based on many different things...and obviously, decisions are the choices made from two or more alternatives. Through experiences we tend to learn about making decisions and even the best decision makers are fallible (shhhh!). Some decisions, whether bad or good...when we make them, we are clueless about what their outcome might be. You may have been more thoughtful than you think.
You can decide to beat yourself up on this forever...
You can decide to let it go.
You have made your apology...and depending on the relation of the individual to you (lover, co-worker, friend, client, sibling, etc) and the mores and values that they hold...is dependent on how they will hold both the mistake that was made...and the apology that was given.
You must try to persevere in either letting this situation go or seek to actively make things right beyond the given apology. This choice, for this decision, is up to you.
2007-01-12 07:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but i think you should be more specific. It depends on what is the mistake.
This may sound very cliche..but it's pretty much true...sometimes sorry is not enough. People find it hard to just forgive someone. I am sure you would feel the same way she's feeling if you were in her situation.
2007-01-12 08:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by Pink C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u realized your mistake and apologized for that... i think thats the greatest and most authentic and most apt thing u could do...
now whther the person has forgiven u for that or not... thats none of ur business... that depends how high he/she thinks...
punishments are given to make others realized... someone's given punishment till he/she dont realize his/her mistake... but a punishment beyond realization is useless and hopeless... u cant change it...
2 things for u...
1. keep blaming urself... but that wont make u a better person...
2. either go to the person ask him/her did he/she has forgotton that all... or not... if yes then good if no then keep on moving... u r a human u got right to mistake
choice is urs...
2007-01-12 11:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing false in this world everything is true
nothing is false , man travels from lower truth to higher truth
we lose beause we think we are,we feel inferior to others just beause we let ourselves think like that
so every thing in this world is just someones imagination' result
dont think u have done any wrong, it happened with a phase of time were u had no other thing to do
live life to ur fullest
anything can be undone
mistakes can be undone
just hold urself from now on and march ahead
do you feel better now!
2007-01-12 23:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have really tried to ask for forgiveness then move on..
just think of this...
everybody commits mistakes and your no exception...
try avoiding or commiting the same mistakes in the future and just pray... let your mind forget your mistakes and try to live your life normally...
hope to be of help to you...
God Speed
2007-01-12 07:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by princedrewe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JO CHALA GAYA USE BHUL JA. FORGET THE PAST, THINK ABOUT TOMORROW.
2007-01-13 00:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look there's only one solution........TALK.............talk to that person
only by talking u can know the truth and even the person is angry then u can ask sorry........this is only the way
2007-01-12 23:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋