My husband's mom seems stand offish towards my daughter who is 10 months old. She seems to not want anything to do with her. We traveled 1.5 hours to see her 3-4 times and each time she only visited briefly as if uninterested. Other times she acted as if she was in a rush to get somewhere or as if she wasn't in a rush to see her children. I don't want my daughter to feel the same vibes that I am feeling as she grows up. It is almost like I don't want to even expose her to her grandmother's ways. My mother is dead so she is the only grandmother left. My husband never addresses any issue, so as you can guess he is totally ignoring this one as well. I am the opposite, if it needs to be addressed then I do so. What should I do? Honestly?
2007-01-11 22:49:45 · 4 answers · asked by sunneybear1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is sad. Is that how your husband grew up? Your husband should speak to her. If he won't maybe you can seek advice from his siblings or another relative in the family. If you can get some idea why she is like this, maybe you can talk to her.
2007-01-11 23:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by fab 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call her and tell her that you have this feeling and that you really would appreciate if she can talk with you about it and that you need her advice.... and see how she react.
Concerning your daughter, you should try to keep your child positive.... when your daughter ask a question related to that issue: that you just tell her "the grand-mother is busy and it will get better". Otherwise your child will start taking distance or can be unnecessary hurt. You want to avoid a gap between them.
2007-01-11 23:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by John Th 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in-law was just like this too. We called her Cruella de Ville.... I don't think you're going to have much success in changing this. Your best bet (for your daughter's sake) is to see if there are any older relatives (maybe an aunt?) or a family friend who is more loving. Luckily for my kids, my own mother was really into her grandchildren. Good Luck!!
2007-01-11 22:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by clean-heart-steadfast-spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh this is bad,you & your hubby need to have a chat explain the situ seek professional help if need be cos this could run for years n years.Good Luck.
2007-01-11 22:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋