As a child growing up I was always known as Mike's (my popular older brother) fugly little fatso sister! Almost everyone one in school ridiculed me about my weight. I would sit in class enduring insult from every direction, feeling like crap as kids through paper balls at me. I would come home crying everyday after school, ashamed of what I was. Mike’s fugly little fatso sister!!! Basically I had a horrible childhood.
Anyway let me get to the point…
My brother’s best friend Jake use to come over to our house like everyday, and like any freshmen girl in my high school thought he was the hottest senior in school. So, I cut his picture out of the yearbook and paste it in my diary, writing my heart out about how I was hopelessly in love Jake Thomson. Soooo… one day I forgot my diary in the living room. And of course my brother and Jake were in the living room goofing around and watching TV. At the time I had no idea my diary was missing, and I definitely did NOT think Jake would find and read my diary!
When I finally found out he had read my diary in was too late. He went around school telling everyone what I wrote. How I was so very hopelessly in LOVE with him, and planned to merry him on day. He even told everyone how my dad would call me his “little butterball”! You know like the butterball turkey? I wanted to commit suicide everyday I was force to go to school, however I didn’t, I just end up eating more and getting ever fatter.
Jake made fun of me more then anyone in school: pushing me out of the way whenever I was around, constantly making malicious false rumors about me. He NEVER gave up an opportunity to humiliate me!
Finally my parents got sick and tired of me coming home crying everyday, from all the teasing at school. So, the next thing I knew I was off to an all girl boarding school in New York, were I over the years lost weight. No longer the FUGLY LITTLE FATSO BUTTERBALL! I became the tall, beautiful girl, who later on in life became a model.
It’s been years since high school, and I see him… Jake! At a club, the azz who made my life an absolute living nightmare! Though now he’s not so much of an azzhole anymore… and I realize even though he made me feel so bad… I like the person he is now… or appears to be. He has apologized a million times, and I do believe he is truly being honest, however my friends and family think differently. They think he’s just playing nice because of my looks. Jake has been nothing but nice to me for the pass two months since we bumped in to each other at my brother’s club. He’s constantly trying to get me to go out on a date with him, and I’m constantly telling him NO; when secretly kinda wanna go out with him to. He really seems like he has changed a lot and though I have not forgotten I forgive him. Jake treated me so badly all those years… now he treats me better then any guy has ever treated me in my life.
Should I give him a chance and go out with him or should I tell him to shove it???
Should I forgive and forget?
2007-01-11 22:33:06 · 10 answers · asked by Maria 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Your heart is still seeing him through the fat girl's eyes and she is the one who wants his acceptance and love.
It is totally up to you what you want to do. If you see him romantically now and he ends up still being a jerk, then you can put the past behind you for good.
If he truly is interested in you as a person, then you have to ask yourself if you want him because he rejected you years ago, or if you truly are interested in him as a person?
Is it pride or revenge?
I think there might be some hidden agendas on both of your parts, but I could be totally wrong.
Take it slow with him or don't waste time on him at all that you could be using on someone else. Again it's up to you.
Be well, be happy.
2007-01-11 22:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very sad story with a great outcome. I'm so glad you overcame it all and turned out such a beautiful girl. Theres a few ways you can look at your friend and how to deal with him. He tormented you and made you feel like killing yourself. That's something I could never do to another human being. Its down right cruel. Sure what he did played a part in you bettering yourself but that doesn't make what he did OK. You must forgive in order to be forgiven but you can never forget. You sound like a very nice girl who still has a heart and hasn't let becoming good looking get to your head. That's a very good thing. Always remember that you are better than nobody but nobody is better than you. If I were you I would fluff that guy off at every opportunity. A leopard never changes it's spots. He only wants you now because you are beautiful. Well my dear he doesn't deserve you. He shattered your precious heart when you were younger. That can never be repaired. Let him stew in his own juice. You deserve better. Good luck and way to go girl.
2007-01-12 06:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by Justa_Honay_Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERY guy would be greatly influenced by a girl's appearance when judging a girl. You probably do the same with guys.
It's inevitable that he would warm up to someone good-looking more than someone unattractive. While I do believe he would have changed, and is less unkind as he was in high school, if he was an attractive guy, then he probably would not like you if you were still overweight. How often would you see an attractive guy with a considerably overweight girlfriend?
2007-01-12 09:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by [operatic stock character] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should forgive and forget,. .as in,... forgive him for what he did,. and forget about him...
newsflash,. it is only because of what you look like....
otherwise,. why not chase after you back then? Hey,. if you want a shallow asshole though,.. go for it...
I mean,. sure,. looks matter,... but theres a differnece between having a prefernece over what you like,. and making fun of someone for what they look like...
mark my words,.. this one ends badly in the end,.. because even though most will tell you its a bad idea,. you are a woman,. and thus don't think logically,. and will try to proce to everyone that they are wrong in your quest for glory,.. and so the few people that say go for it will motivate you just enough,. and at first things will seem great,... until he chases down some other hot piece pf *** (cuz yes thats all you are to him,.. sorry) you will be devistated,...
but like i said,.. you don't believe that,. you know it will work,.. you'll prove us all wrong,... and ultimatly your going to do what you want anyway,. so why ask us for our approval? I just hope you don't get hurt too bad :)
2007-01-12 06:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that I would give him one chance to see if he has really changed. If you do go out with him just be carful, I dont want you to get hurt any more. I would forgive him but how do you forget something that hurt you so badly? Maybe in time.
2007-01-12 06:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by karen v 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, if you have grown up its time to let this one go. you can forgive but never forget, thats how the past repeats itself. So what if he treats you nice now, by not giving him a chance you are reminding him that actions have consequences.
2007-01-12 07:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by Andrew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way did i read all of that trivial crap. but i'm just going to make a general statement and hope it's apt. Forgive but never Forget.
2007-01-12 06:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by eskew_obfuscation 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a chance...
dont let the past be a block in your happiness besides your alot mature now and you will know if his just playing a game on you...
hif he is playing with your feelings then kick his balls...
if his not then you two will be alot more happy...
you know...if you really like him and just let him pass by one day youll be wondering and asking what if he is really changed?
try to think of it..
hope to be of help...;)
2007-01-12 07:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by princedrewe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you changed over the years? If you have then others can too. Over time people mature and learn more, which has a tendancy to change them.
2007-01-12 11:10:48 · answer #9 · answered by justin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive and forget gurl..if u think jake is all that and he apologized..then give him a chance and see how it goes..tell me how it goes...
2007-01-12 06:44:56 · answer #10 · answered by LeBaNeSeHoTtIe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋