ive been with my husband 14 years and love him to bits but i hate it when he touches me in some places i have talked it though but im now getting to the point where i dont want him touching me and i flinch when he does how can i stop myself doing this and get my love life back we love each other but it is just this problem which started when i had my last child
2007-01-11 22:08:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some women dont like being touched in certain places and I can understand that but as I kept reading your question you seem to mention that you now dont like him touching you at all ? I think maybe you need to try and figure out why it is... what are the feelings that make you think you dont like being touched ? If you are at a lost, maybe consult a doctor or possibly a councellor... there may be an underling issue you have not worked through.... like a past event that has now surfaced with you unaware that they can help you through.... It is important tyou do this as I am sure your hubby is hurting when you flinch away ! Please do something about it ! You obviously love him and he will support you thru it all ! Good luck
2007-01-11 22:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ehlana 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Probably there is something ur husband did which makes u irritated. Calm down, he is ur husband and u both have total right s on each other. If the case of being hurt physically and pain talk wid him, else this is the case wherein u are loosing the romance and tit0bits n ur love love life. Try to talk to ur hubby about this and ask him why u feel like this. Also ask him whether he feels the same(even if u know the answers.)
Probably Ypu will be able to get through this
Hrishikesh :)
2007-01-11 22:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by HB2000 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Basically you needs a good physique and health . You must start regular exercises and body massage . Make it a point to have all the three heartily meals . One glass of milk in the morning and before going to bed .Take shower before going to bed regularly. As soon you start improving , you will restart feeling good about his sensual touchings . Start trying now.
2007-01-11 22:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how long it is since you had your last child. If fairly recently it could be some form of post natal depression. However, whether or not it is, go and talk to your GP about it and he will be able to refer you to a therapist so that you can sort this problem out.
Hope it all turns out OK for you.
2007-01-11 22:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mother Hen 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go and see your GYN/OB Dr. There may be something that can be done medically. Maybe you're in fear of getting pregnant again. Solve that by being sterialized or take hubby in for the old snip snip cut cut!!
Seek out a counselor or pshychologist. There could be some underlying problems in yourself that needs to be worked out.
BABY steps to fix yourself. Its not your hubby it's you!
communicate to your husband that you and he need to fix you together.!!!
2007-01-11 22:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. I read it again and again, but the only thing that comes to my mind is that you don't feel that intimate to him any more. You just don't desire him in that way, which does not mean you don't love him. Love has got many faces.
Or could be also explained by some hormonal imbalance.
You might wanna approach a professional with this question.
2007-01-11 22:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by weird_girl 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think you should go see your Dr, it could be depression, or just the fact that you may not feel as attractive as you once did. Even if it didn't happen with your other kids. It wouldn't hurt to go get a professionals opinion, it could be so many things. Good Luck
2007-01-11 22:18:04 · answer #7 · answered by s_grendys 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just try to be open with eachother about it talk it through and go from there if you cant sort it out between you talk to a doctor they may be able to pass on numbers for people who can help you good luck
2007-01-11 22:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by bexieboo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to go and see a therapist. I am not being facetious but this is more than can be dealt with by a bunch of strangers on a q&a page.
2007-01-11 22:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
that.s sometimes happen.s after having children.i had the same problem with my wife.there is not much you can do.you have to tell your partner how you fill.it all depends how he take.s it.like me he may fill; hurt at first and angry.for some reason us men take every thing to heart.
2007-01-11 22:27:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋