I am 14 and one of seven kids. My parents are super strict. I have two older step sisters who are 18&17 n they are like my sisters but they are allowed do way more things.i pretty much have the same rules as my younger sister who is 12.I have to be in my pajamas every school night with the younger kids at 7.30pm cuz my mom says its a good example,then i am made be in bed at 8.45 just fifteen mins after my sister is asleep and my dad turns off the lights at9.15pm.Once the kids r in bed my sister n I rn't allowed use the phone or anything n we have to be real quiet cuz if we wake the kids r parents get mad. i have tried talking to them but they say I'm a teenager so its natural for me not to like their rules.Its getting embarrassing cuz now if my gf rings at nine even tho im awake n can here my mom on the phone to her im not allowed talk to her n my mom says im in bed.1 night i came down n said it ok im awake n my dad shouts RICHARD bed now r ill spank u n she heard.What can i do?
2007-01-11 22:02:35 · 6 answers · asked by TeenageRichie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
highlight the question, print it out...and 'accidentally' leave it behind on the floor or something where one of them for sure will find it!
2007-01-11 22:10:08 · answer #1 · answered by Courtney 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
at fourteen you have a long way to go to be an adult. I manage an inner city grocery store and see the effects of loose parenting daily so I can tell you ...it isnt all its cracked up to be. If yiou want to get the ties loosened try being responsible rather than rebellious. you can come up with things that you can do so your parents can see you do the right thing, then tell them to test you on things you havent come up with so they can see these arent intentionally created situations alone to indicate your behavior. its definitely NOT natural for you not to like their rules as I was also from a strict home. i was the youngest of seven. schooling excellence, good behavior, no smoking or drinking was taken totally for granted. were all working and seemed to have been raised all right so i dont see an ill effect. theres a phrase i would use here...its called choose your battles well or youll be fighting all the time. its better to talk with your parents about solutions rather than problems..trust me, ive been a parent for well over fifteen years...i know that works. good luck.
2007-01-12 06:11:05 · answer #2 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even at 18 my Mom allowed no calls after 9. There should be different rules for 17/18 yr olds and a 14 yr old. At 14 you are much closer in age to a 12 yr old's rules, not a 17 yr old, no matter how grown you feel. They are (or are almost) legal age. I think your parents are doing a good job of setting rules and making sure they are inforced. Just because your gf (friend, whatever) stay up late and call people late doesn't mean its right or that you should do it. As a growing kid, you need sleep. 9:15 is a decent bedtime at your age. If you get up at 7 AM, then that is a correct amount of sleep for your age. You might not like it, but your parents are doing a good job. They are trying to raise you to become a responsible person.
2007-01-12 06:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by Velken 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
do something extra around the house to help ur parents, then ask if u can stay up till 9:30.....also tell ur friends not to call u after 8pm, cause ur parents get upset, this doesnt make u look bad but they understand parents are silly ;-)
2007-01-12 09:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by Hi my name is... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show them some respect and judgement maybe they will change there minds but i think that your parents are super strict enough not to be rude okay bye!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-12 08:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by soccer kisses!!!!!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like the 1st answer
2007-01-12 13:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋