if i go to see my mates n i'm even 5 mins longer than i said i would be we end up arguin, i'm friends with my ex's coz the guys i get with r all great people who i really get on with but he doesn't like me gettin txts let alone going pub 4 a chat.
2007-01-11 21:48:53 · 24 answers · asked by typinkpuppy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think i should just clear up something bout my ex's. i'm 21 but have always gone for an older/more mature person, the reason i am still friends with most of these is because when we split up we have reached the decision (if thats how it's spelt) that we have come to a point where it just isn't working anymore but rather than throw away what we had, stay FRIENDS, whats past is past, the relationships didn't work first time round so what is the point in trying again. i must admit that if he was still talking to his ex's i'd be a bit jealous but only because he has told me that with other people it was just a sex thing does this make it any easier to understand where i am coming from??
2007-01-14 23:45:47 · update #1
He's got the kind of issues that will end up hurting you both mentally and physically.
2007-01-11 21:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I can understand getting txt's from your ex's all the time and going drinking with them.... I mean these are people you've slept with i'm assuming and ex's are ex's for a reason its best you keep minimal contact i'd say. You wouldn't be too happy about him hanging out with his ex girlfriends all night would you? Or him getting txt's all night while your out. The whole 5 min longer than expected is a bit possesive though lol. Unless of course these are your ex's that you were hanging out with.
2007-01-11 21:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by massure4hire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... I think your boyfriend is a little CONSCIOUS... He probably feels that there is a huge chance that you would end up falling in love with your Ex since you both hang out... Just talk to him first and tell him what you want and ask him what he wants... If he never wants you to see your Ex reason out first. Then if he is being too possessive... tell him that you two will never agree with that arrangement. Tell him that you think he's to possessive and consider the fact that you two aren't married yet... Just think of what would happen if you two really will marry each other...? I'm sure there will be lots of "DON'Ts"... So before any of those happen, have a decent conversation with him... Try to work it out first... If it really doesn't then you have no other choice but to break up with him...
2007-01-11 22:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by Rinko_Sano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be getting texts from your ex, what do you expect your boyfriend to do? It is a little odd that he gets upset when you are late - but if you've been with your ex then you should think yourself lucky that he's letting you go out at all.
Just try and put the shoe on the other foot - how would you feel if he was meeting up with and getting texts from an old flame. I think you wouldn't like it one bit.
2007-01-11 21:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by mark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like he's both.. I won't have a relationship with someone who hangs out with their Ex. I just hate that. But I say so on date 3, if things are looking good. If the Ex comes to a childs play or party that is fine. But to have my guy out without me hanging with buddies and his Ex.. no way...I'm way to possesive and jealous.
2007-01-11 21:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Extremely possesive, i'd understand if you had been unfaithful before or something but if you have been a good lil girl then he has no reason to suspect you of doing anything so therefore being possesive.
2007-01-11 21:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both! He may not trust you because you have been in a relationship with them before and he might be insecure himself. My husband was the same way. What you can do (and what I did) was when you go to see your exes then take him with you and hold his hand while you are around your exes that way he will feel more confident and they will know that you are taken. When you get texts show him. He cannot be upset if you are being honest with him! If he is still upset then he is possessive and that can be dangerous! Talk to him and explain your concerns to him and ask him his opinion on the way he thinks things could go different. If you know your going to be late call him right away. This shows him that you respect him and his feelings.
2007-01-11 21:58:48 · answer #7 · answered by sasy_tabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i think he doesn't trust u, because possesive people doesn't shout or argue actually they request to their love.
2007-01-11 21:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by Manish Ahuja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's pretty selfish. He doesn't sound mature enough to handle having a girlfriend.
2007-01-11 21:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by supercurlz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you whinge if he gets texts and goes to the pub for a chat with his ex's..??
anyway, he should loosen up, show some trust in you.
If he tries to control ALL that you do, then dump him or you will be like him...No life.
2007-01-11 21:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋