A very good friend of mine told me that he wanted to date me when he started to get to know me, but I went into a 3 month relationship at that time. As we got to know each other I started falling for him and told him. He then told me he was afraid of ruining the friendship and we kept being friends with occational making out. Last night he said he knows their won't ever be anything between us and that it can't work, because we are too much alike. I mean c'mon??? So I know where I stand now, but it just seems so unreal. Is this how most guys think or is he the exception? Please help. I need to know, because i still think if he has feelings for me which along the line he said a couple of times then how can a decision be based on likeness???
2007-01-11 20:42:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
maybe you scared him away. Or maybe he just wanted a quick one and you wanted more. Or maybe he just changed his mind.
2007-01-11 20:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by Baruch F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As more time passed, you got to be better friends. At some point, in his mind, you crossed that line, where it is no longer worth the risk of dating somebody.
I've actually been in a similar situation to what you are. I met this girl, Megan, and we just clicked. Unfortunately, another guy asked her out the day before I was planning on doing it (and she later admitted to me that she was hoping I would ask, rather than him).
The other guy turned out to be a jerk, but it took her 8 months to realize it. She broke up with him, and we got together within a couple of weeks. But it just didn't work. We clicked, we were (and still are) so completely alike in so many ways: we made great friends. But it just couldn't be converted to a relationship. She ended it, well before I was ready to give up on it, and got back together with her previous moron boyfriend.
Things were bad between us for awhile, but we eventually made up (around the time she remembered what a jerk her boyfriend was). Today, Megan is one of my best friends, and I trust her as much as anybody I know. I love her very much, just not in that way. Even though I wasn't happy about it at the time, I'm glad it ended when it did: before it had a chance to get bad.
2007-01-11 20:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by Wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell truth about the science of boys mind.
This is what happens. Firstly a boy loves a girl and then ask her out. He is happy for a long time. Then he realizes that if he can ask one girl out, then he can ask another girl out. So he go after another girl.
This way some boys hardly stay long with a same girl. They keep on changing their mind.
Please don't worry, just kick him out your life before he kicks you. If you break up first then he will come after you.
If be breakup first then he won't care about you.
2007-01-11 20:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by prashmanic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes these things happen for the better. Because say you all went out, it could possibly ruin the good friendship that you have. I think that he just loves you too much to hurt you...
2007-01-15 11:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is certainly true that men can be shallow, as true as women can. Men are often driven by fear, friendship alone after this wil not work, however a good relationship does require trust and friendship.
2007-01-13 00:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by freephoenixuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know where you stand because he has told you. Were you listening or are you trying to convince yourself of something different. Stop living in a dream world and find someone you can make something work with.
2007-01-11 20:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there could be two reasons.. 1 he could have changed his mind about you... but the other is that he has become your friend and he is probible scared of loosing that. i have done it before. i started dating a good friend of mine, and when we split i lost that friend and to this day i still dont talk to her... so maybe that is the case.. i will never date a friend anymore, its a risk... gf and bf come and go but one must try to hold on to good friends...
2007-01-11 20:48:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun - mens minds are just the strangest thing - we never have and never will know what goes on in there - all I can advise you is to take what he's said on board - stay friends with him - if then he realises he could be more to you - let him work for it and chase after you. xx
2007-01-11 20:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya,
I think he has decided you are not the one for him and he is feeling like he would rather have you as a friend so he can move on and still have you as his friends...hope this helps
2007-01-11 22:30:38 · answer #9 · answered by yessart1956 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to offend you,but i think this is just what he see's to be a good way of letting you know he wants to finish, i don't believe it to be the truth but he probably cares for you and doesn't want to hurt you.
2007-01-14 02:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by catalyist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y do only gals have to wait...!!!!It is very rude of dat guy when he said dat but if u really like him I hope dat guys point of vew changes & he needs a frnd then u can give him support by givin him a punnishment
2007-01-11 21:06:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋