a freind or family who lost hopoe in (him/her )self and doesnt believe he/she can succeed anymore.
2007-01-11 20:41:04 · 9 answers · asked by honey bear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I agree, he or she needs to find something within themselves to bring them out of whatever it is that is getting them down. You can help to a certain degree, but don't let the person become overly dependent on you.
Help him/her find some hobbies that they could do. I'm not sure if they are employed (or maybe this is someone that is younger) but getting at least a part-time job would be a good start for them to earn money and feel worthwhile.
I highly recommend the book Feeling Good by Dr. David Burns. You should be able to pick up a copy at a used book store, it has some good exercises that he or she could do to help identify some of the issue he/she is facing.
Finally, if possibly the person should try to seek out a counselor to help him/her work through their problems. I know from experience that if you find the right counselor, they can act as a sounding board and help guide him or her through the tough times.
2007-01-11 21:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a lot of these positions and at times i just wanted to be left alone. So give your mate time. Motivate him\her with some of their favourite things to do in the past. Something that will distract them completely and maybe once they notice how happy they are they will confide in you what is wrong. Good luck!
2007-01-11 20:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to be very difficult to convince them they're still worth something. No amount of encouragement can really help them unless they actually believe it themselves. I've had some experience with that and I found it very hard. I really couldn't understand what was happening, why my friend felt so down. But when he started doing something he really liked, he felt so much better. One thing's for sure, be brutally frank! That would maybe wake them up from their depression.
2007-01-11 20:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by ponder2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the person from past experiences. in lyf there always has to be bumpy roads there aint no road that in smooth and straight tel him/her that mountains n valleys r there and you only have to trust in God and also in yourself to be able to move to the next stage and the further you go the harder it gets. im speakin frm past experiences.my down falls only made me stronger n so will hers/his.youve slipped not fallen n if u have fallen get up n move on u have a long way to go. this is not the end of lyf
2007-01-11 20:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by Maria Clara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, go ahead and be a freind. Do not judge him/her. help as much as you can without making it seem very obivious. Do not expect anything in return. Do not boast that you are doing this great deed. Go ahead and be a friend indeed.
2007-01-11 20:45:48 · answer #5 · answered by nice guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the type of person they are... if they're like me... they would rather die than YOU try to help them.. so don't... otherwise... give them opportunities to be in a situation that will help them feel better about themselves (cuz that's what it's really about) regardless of what everyone else around says or does... .. .. and if you don't understand this answer... don't bother... they'd hate you more for trying to 'help' them..
2007-01-11 20:47:20 · answer #6 · answered by some dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her some inspirational quotes.
Get committed in some activities. This will keep her busy.
2007-01-11 20:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by prashmanic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can try to help her but she also needs to help herself and gain back her confidence
2007-01-11 20:45:31 · answer #8 · answered by KATEL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only answer is the one who is with you always.....He is at everyones side ........He is no other than God.......no more!!!!!
2007-01-11 20:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by selrahc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋