I am 26(Male) going to marrage after one month.
2007-01-11 20:24:17 · 8 answers · asked by Harshad 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No, that defeats the purpose of a marriage. Unless your spouse approves, but then why did you get married?
2007-01-11 20:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dorsiatic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I will not judge you because I don't know the surrounding circumstances of your question. Why are you having this affair to begin with? I understand if you say that your fiance isn't fufilling your needs because lets face it, no one can. In society we are taught that it is okay to look outside your marriage for emotional support ( from family, friends...), we are taught that it is acceptable to look outside our relationships for intellectual support (from friends and/ or teachers) and we are taught that its fine to look outside our relationships for social support. But the minute we need sexual comfort or support, then society forces us to just bite the bullet or at least grin and bear an unsatisfying sexual relationship. I believe this to be incorrect because people don't get married purely for sex. Society can't value only the sexual aspect of a relationship and then trivialise the emotional and intellectual. Surely a marriage is a synthesis of the three elements.
While I believe all that I have said above, I believe that one should however lead an honest life. Not for the sake of your wife, but for yours because having an affair involves deceit and lying requires a kind of energy or strength of purpose that the lier often doesn't take into account.
Your marriage would be a lie and therefore it would be hurtful. While you may have good intentions for covering it up, it is nonetheless keeping your partner in the dark, which is never fair.
And nevermind your wife, or yourself, what about this mistress or master. You will be bringing deceit into his/her life aswell. You will reduce this persons life to one of lies, secret meetings, disapointment and shame. NO ONE DESERVES THAT.
Even if you don't care for your wife or the person you're having an affair with, don't you at least care about your own life. Don't you want to enjoy your marriage and family without having to lie to them? Don't you want to commit to one life as opposed to living a double one? Don't you want to live a life that enriches as opposed to hurts others or yourself.
And take it from me, ALL marital affairs end in tragedy.
2007-01-12 04:57:40 · answer #2 · answered by Adventurer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it should continue. That way the little women won't have to pretend you're the reason for her happiness. Burn both ends against the middle, you'll be the only one who gets burned. Enjoy the lies while they last.
2007-01-12 04:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you make me sick! how can you expect someone to continue to b with u if you are cheeting on them! but if u want u could introduce them and have a 3some! ha! dont do it not eva respect ur girl. and i hope that she dumps ur sorry ***! y r u asking that in the GAY section! lol u must b sick in ur head! sorry if i hurt ur feeling but it had 2 b said i hope now u will c the error of ur ways
2007-01-16 04:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by single_pringle01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if the affair is with your wife.
2007-01-12 04:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by silverman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I sure wouldn't stick around.
2007-01-12 09:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by Scully 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Why are you getting married if you are even asking this question?
2007-01-16 04:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by curious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, don't. I would pity the girl if she finds this out. And! If she's vocal about her feelings, you will regret it.
2007-01-12 05:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by bluewarrior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋