please help me to stop my suicidal thoughts?

Question

IM DEPRESSED MY WIFE RAN OFF WITH HER PERSONAL TRAINER ,SHE IS TELLING LIES ABOUT ME, IM LONLEY WITHOUT MY FAMILY WE HAVE 3 KIDS THAT WE SHARE WEEK ON/OFF BUT SHE HAS TAKEN THEM AWAY FOR 2 WEEKS AND WONT LET THEM RING ME.IM NOT HAPPY AT WORK ,LIFE HAS LITTLE MEANING AT THE MOMENT I FEEL LIKE GOING TRAVELLING OVERSEAS FOR A LONG LONG TIME OR JUST ENDING IT THE ONLY THING STOPPING ME IS MY 3 WONDERFULL KIDS I CANT SEEM TO HANDLE THIS EMOTIONAL ROLLERCOASTER.HER SOLICITERS ARE ALSO GIVING ME HELL OVER TINY TRIVIAL MATTERS AND HER PARENTS ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO TURN THE KIDS AWAY FROM ME AYEAR AGO I THOUGHT I WAS THE LUCKYEST MAN AROUND NOW I FEEL THE MOST ISOLATED AND DEPRESSED.IF TALKED TO A COUNCILLER AND HAVE DONE A DIVORCE COURSE THROUGH THE CHURCH BUT NOTHING IT SEEMS CAN CONTROLL MY EMOTIONAL STATE HELP

Answer 1

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 2

Here is a little reminder for you on suicide:
1 Corinthians 6:20 . . . God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.
Jesus paid the ultimate sacrifice for us that we could have life. It would go against everything Jesus taught us to take our own life.


HOW CAN I DEAL WITH THOUGHTS I HAVE ABOUT SUICIDE?
Matthew 28:20 . . . Be sure of this: “I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”
Remember that you are not alone.
Jeremiah 1:5 . . . “I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart and appointed you as my spokesman to the world.”
Jeremiah 29:11 . . . I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.
When you are tempted by thoughts of hopelessness, remember that God created you and has a plan for you. Do not be harsh to react, seek out the Lord, a pastor or trusted friend that can keep you grounded, and move on with hope in your heart.

Oh and here is a little answer on drugs for those who are replying. The Bible doesn’t talk about drugs as we know of them today, but it does talk very specifically about not putting things into our bodies that are harmful or that are not glorifying to God. Taking drugs is trying to get a “high”-a feeling of ecstacy and satisfaction that is a cheap substitute for the incredible feeling that comes when we allow the Holy Spirit to control our lives. When the Holy Spirit controls our lives, we not only feel incredible, but others are helped as well. Peace to you.

Answer 3

Calm down, the last thing you want to do is something irrational in this state of mind. Killing yourself is not going to do anyone any good. And what about your kids? Think about the what that might do to your kids if you're gone forever. Calm down and look for a friend you can talk to face to face. You need someone to be by right now so call someone up, do something, just don't do anything that might harm your children.

Please seek professional help.

Answer 4

If I were you, I would see a psychiatrist. Your depression sounds extremely severe, and you probably need to be prescribed some medications that will help your body control these emotions. I am sure your children love you very much, and just think about what it would do to them to lose their father. Life is precious, and I know that if you do seek the right professional help, you will have the potential to be as happy as you want to be.

Answer 5

I can understand your feeling because I am alos gone through such or similar type of feelings like frustration from the family, society, friends and relatives. In all the aspect culture and surroundings played a great role. Earth is not standing any more where it is now. Be take courage to wait or write to me [e-mail]

Answer 6

When you get up each morning, remind yourself that attitude is everything and be kinder than necessary; for everyone you meet is fighting a battle as you are! So live simply… Love generously…Care deeply…Speak kindly... Recognize and improve your limitations… Tolerate and accept the inadequacies of others… And leave the rest to the divine counsel you see fit!

Answer 7

bypass do something relaxing. about a pair years in the past i assumed about it too... I dont recognize why. I had countless friends were given solid grades and my relatives loved me. i realized that it will be egocentric to devote suicide and to damage your spouse and children and friends. i realized you opt for to seem on the effective sides of issues. Dont forget that there is a lot solid interior the international too. the international is solid.you're sturdy and performance the flexibility to regulate issues. i realized that theres a lot existence has to furnish. stay existence. Love what you've! the international is a miracle. The sunlight on your face is a miracle, a grin, relaxing, your a miracle! So bypass do something solid and effective for your self :) So be careful please. Remeber what you do have. Your under no circumstances on my own.

Answer 8

Please do not take any advice from this site - there are many well meaning people here but you need professional medical help and/or to speak to a trained councillor. You may also benefit from a period of admission to a specialised service.

Please go and see your doctor immediately or go to your hospitals emergency department. I can assure you they will take you seriously.

Answer 9

Give yourself a break, seek help, then move on with yours and your kids lives. You deseve better