Can I be gay and not love my buddy? I mean is just sex ok? Most say not, but don't you think there are people like me who like dudes for sex only but can't "feel the love". I'm not saying at all that guys can't love each other, I'm only speaking about me. Is it ok that I just do the gay sex stuff without worrying about LTR and all that? Isn't it just like a single straight dude who prefers a "single" lifestyle? I ask because many gay dudes have said I'm a loser for this type of attitude.
2007-01-11 20:12:04 · 12 answers · asked by Intrusivosity With Medium Doubt 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't see a problem with it, as long as the other guy is okay with it. Us straight folks have friends with benefits - why not gays too?
2007-01-11 20:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by C J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't understand what the big deal about sex is. In my experience sex has a tendancy to lead to babies, disease and/or relationships. And I don't want that. I want the opposite of that.
Besides, the act itself maybe (EXTREMELY!!) pleasurable, but it is at the end of day, quite silly. See, if a guy gave me a great massage or a great shampoo, that I can fully dig. Its safer and it involves less bodily fluids. I mean, if a guy came up to you and say "Hey baby, want me to sneeze in your face?" you wouldn't be turned on, would you?
Having said all of that however, I do believe that the key to happiness is trully a healthy sex life. Because once that is in place one gets to experience a true renewal of mind, body and spirit. I have found in my life at least, that when one is asexual all other areas of life run below par.
And this is the part that I have learned from men. Relationships force you to compromise your ideas, creativity, vision and accomplishments. If many would let go of their search for love, then we would all be a force, a genius and an inspiration.
Now I know what others are going to say, "Isn't love a force and an inspiration in itself?"
I have had my fair share of relationships and they have all ended the exact same way. When I turned twenty I decided to stop this cycle of expectation and dissapointment and would rather just feed my body with the (very little) sex it needs and avoid all emotional attatchements. Since that decision I have led a very full and happy life.
To answere your question, I think it would be best if you finally came to the realisation that it is only you would can pioneer the vision of your life. People will always talk but your life is bigger and more powerful than any opinion that someone may or may not have of you. I know that once I made a decision about my life that I could be free to enjoy it.
Do the same. Believe me it works.
2007-01-11 20:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by Adventurer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's strange at all, but I reckon you might get tired of it one day and will want to find someone whom you love that can fulfill more than your sexual appetite.
If you don't think you're capable of "feeling" this "love" that you talk about, then I don't think that has much to do with you being gay, I think maybe you have issues with love itself, or even commitment. That, or you're merely bi-curious and have found that gay sex entices you because it provides something you can't get from the opporsite sex.
You might very well be thought of as a loser for feeling the way you do, but it might just be because these people think you're lame for resisting the possibilities of love. Just a thought.
2007-01-11 20:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Dorsiatic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the fact that u are gay is weird! but no if its just for the sex then it no different then a guy and a girls that are **** buddies. who cares what the other gays say. love is something u have to feel not want. cause when u want it then u never going to look past the fact that its all about u and ur partner. there is much more than that. so do what u feel. good luck
2007-01-11 20:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by quikblue11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you love someone you love someone... it doesnt mean that you don't enjoy doing other things with those you feel less emotional toward. I just don't like that lifestyle in either gay people or straight people... I do it with the man I love and just him.
You might try forming friendships and even dating relationships with some guys and seeing where that takes you as far as your emotional "issue" is concerned. You may find its easier to love than you thought when you dont consumate a relationship so fast. ;-)
2007-01-11 20:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by littlekitty1985 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an attitude that gives gay guys a bad reputation, but you can just have sex with guys and not be in a relationship.
2007-01-12 02:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people may consider you a loser, but you have to live your own life.
You do not have to be in love. Just continue the "single" lifestyle, but make sure you don't hurt anyone ... and be careful out there!
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2007-01-11 20:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by Maewest 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not? All hetrosexuals do not love each other, nor do all lesbians, sex can be just sex.
2007-01-12 19:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by Yosuke A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't under-estimate yourself; You're probably worse at sex than you are with emotions.
2007-01-11 20:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's perfectly fine. as long as it's fine with both of you and nobody's getting hurt.
2007-01-11 21:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋