two married virgins now want to make love please advise on how to do it right, lessen pain and all possible results.
2007-01-11 19:43:04 · 11 answers · asked by icycharia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
guys get no pain. but for the woman use alot of lube and take it real slow. insert head very, very gently
2007-01-11 19:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourselves a lot of time on foreplay, kissing, caressing, fondling, when both of you are ready then you can penetrate. If the woman does not have a lot of fluids you can apply some lubricants. Alternatively there's a style you can use, which can help you obtain orgasm without entering. What a man does is to bring his 'dik' on the surface of the vagina esp. on clitoris, shake it rigorously in different directions. It feels good for both of you. It even helps a woman to produce a lot of fluids. You can try that!
2007-01-12 04:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invest in ky jelly, and condoms.
condoms for safe sex, and also holds the lube better while inside of her.
you will not be patient enough to control your urges with a woman.
it will be a little painful regardless, advice use finger or fingers inside her first to properly lube her and to have her body ready to accept you. if you can control your urges, take your time
explore her body and learn what stimulates her body to where she is aroused.
men are soooooo easily aroused, women it takes pateince and time to stimulate there body. if you rush and penetrate her
YOU will hurt her severely, so please be patient.
and im glad that you have asked.
also check into sex books, they are educational and also
karma sutra books or dvd's, they are good for intimate
sharing and learning experiences to share with your lover.
if you are a large man, be honest, your lady's pleasure depends on it. go to adult store and get the smallest size to use after your fingers to use on her, this helps her body relax and you have more control with your hand there, than your manhood.
and just remember to a virgin any size could hurt her, but this is to cause as little pain as possible.
keep ky and condoms close.
email me if you need to logan6171@yahoo.com
2007-01-12 05:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by sharma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the Pain that you talk about does not happen for everyone, and even if it does it does not hurt like people make it seem like, people try to scare others, but really there is nothing to worry about. As far as advising, things will happen as they happen, there is nothing to have to prepare for, just let things happen! There is no way to do it right or wrong, you will learn, trust me may people have!
Good luck
and Good for you for both waiting!
2007-01-12 03:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by Uzlu2919 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use lots of lube, use lots of foreplay (for her), perhaps use other things for insertion smaller than his penis to get her used to being entered. If you don't want to, you can use fingers to gently stretch her open.
Be slow, gentle and take your time. A clitoral vibration might help take her mind off the pain. Just be slow and have fun. It only gets better!
2007-01-12 03:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by SLATE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if tonight is not your wedding night, then WHAT AR YOU WAITING FOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just do it. Also, it is not magical, and probably wont be that great in retrospect. You will enjoy it of course, but fireworks dot go off or confetti drop from the ceiling. Like anything, to get good at it, and enjoy it more, it tkaes practice....good luck.
2007-01-12 03:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by ray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
it's right but painfull ... is not possible to have possible results. for a first time love she's made is not real love the need some teaching ... leaning more...
2007-01-12 04:06:50 · answer #7 · answered by Bonnie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no right or wrong. take it slowly and go from there.
why would there be pain?
and results? you'll have fun and get to investigate some new things and ideas!
2007-01-12 03:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Carla S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww be gentle with each other it only hurts for a bit
2007-01-12 03:49:33 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go slow because she's going to hurt and bleed. Also, he needs to wear one because if it's his first time, he's going to get off damn near instantly.
2007-01-12 03:46:41 · answer #10 · answered by hopelessmagic 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋