a married woman, has a good dream about her career. but that means she should leave her husband and her baby for a long time. what should she do now?
2007-01-11 19:38:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A husband is a partner in life. He actually asked her to become her wife, knowing full well what she did and what her dreams were. Anything can be discussed for mutual benefit.
However, the baby never asked her to be his mother. She's the one deciding that this baby would have her as a mother. So she has to be responsible for that decision.
Now you didn't tell us how old the baby is and how long "a long time" is. The first five years is the golden age of human growth, both physically and psychologically. There's no substitute for a mother's love, care and attention to shape a baby into a good human in the future. The father chipping in with his love, care and attention would make it perfect, but the mother is a definite must!
So, it's simple really. If the baby is 6 years old or more, then she should go for it (after a serious discussion with her family of course). It's not like she can't take a leave every six or twelve months. Webcams and 3G video calls are so easy these days.
Otherwise, she could forget about it for now and wait until then. If waiting will make her lose the golden opportunity, then it's part of the consequences that goes with any decisions and choices she made. She should take it in stride.
2007-01-11 20:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by Ario 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume the women chose to be married to the man? If this assumption is correct, and the couple had a baby together it is both his and her responsibility for that child. There is no reason to abandon your family, unless for some abuse. What is her dream? I am sure it can be accomplished with a child, and husband? Raise the child and once the child is old enough for school then the one who stays at home with the child (normally the mother) can go out and pursue her dreams, if this is not the case and the mother does not want to wait she can talk with her husband and arrange for their child to be put in daycare so that the mother/wife can pursue her career/dream!
Hope this helps and please just do something that will be good for you, your baby and your husband. It is important not to leave your husband/baby because it will be hard then to come back, and Marriage is not about leaving your family, it is about building and staying with a family.
2007-01-12 03:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by Uzlu2919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Postpone if for now, since she's got a baby to take care of. She can always work around the school schedule later when the kid grows older. But the family and child comes first, or else she shouldn't have married in the first place.
2007-01-12 03:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by Benvenuto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
family is very important and you should consider them to but you can't put your self last either I believe it is important that we don't forget about our self's and put others first all the time so you could do this - talk to your husband let him now how important this is to you and is not like you are going to be away forever? they should be able to support you if they really love you because the people who loves you the most will support you no matter what ;) the best thing you can do is talk to your family and let them know how you feel about all this and work out a plan that suits you all ;)
best wishes
2007-01-12 03:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no sweetie.....u should follow your dreams....most of the women are working mothers....you just have to multi task and be organised and efficient,and strike the right balance between work and family! achieving ur goals will make you more positive and confident and you will pass this confidence on to ur children..after the baby starts school...im sure u wud have more time on ur hands.
ive seen many stay at home moms and their lives become so empty after their children no longer need them...and at such a stage you will be frustrated and angry for just sitting at home....so go for it gurl...its ur one life....all the beast to you!
2007-01-12 04:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by lilbit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to not be selfish and realize that she has to be there for her family. They're a team now and need to function in a way that benefits the family. Not just one person in it.
2007-01-12 03:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by hopelessmagic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I get married and we adopt our children from China my husband will stay home and cook for me and children.
ALSO REMEMBER THAT JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE MARRIED DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE KIDS
2007-01-12 03:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe said women should not have made a family if she was not ready to participate in it.
2007-01-12 03:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by cuteness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋