My mom has been told numeroustimes over the years about the sexual abuse inflicted on her children by her husband of 12yrs.Every time it'sbrought up to her again,she says she was never told about it prior.We tried to talk to her about it again recently and she said the same thing...That we were probably lieing because it was the first time she's heard anything about it..this is NOT true!!!.........Why is she doing this?..What can be done?
2007-01-11 19:21:36 · 6 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Books & Authors
Why would someone give this question a thumbs down?
2007-01-11 19:26:42 · update #1
She just can't or won't face the truth.Report it to the authorities.Then get counseling for the children and your mom.I don't know why anyone would give your question a thumbs down except maybe their a child molester. This guy needs to pay for what he has done.He needs to be stopped don't think that you and your family are his only victims.For all the other childrens sakes that he is in contact and will come in contact with report him.!
2007-01-11 19:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by Debbie O 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Denial is an amazing thing. My mother is the same way. My memory is tremendous and I know I have heard my mother say things about her youth when I was younger myself and now when I've reminded her of something she's like, "I don't know what you'r talking about." She has moved on or it was so horrible that she just doesn't want to talk about it or remember it entirely. Believe me, the mind is a powerful thing and there is a great chance that your mother has supressed it so deeply that she really doesn't remember. Hypnotizing is an attempt at bringing out things that have been surpressed almost instantaneously by the mind because it was so traumatic.
2007-01-11 19:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by Phat Kidd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the person gave it a thumbs down because it is in the "Books and Authors" section, and it is not clear why. Are you doing research for a novel? Are you writing an analysis of a piece of literature? Is your mom an author?
As for an answer to your question. It's called denial and is quite a common response to traumatic or difficult events or situations.
2007-01-11 19:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by Zachary F 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's obvious that she is unable or unwilling to face the truth. You can't do anything about that, and you can't change her - you can only change yourself. Given this fact, why do you continue to bring up the topic? It won't help the pain go away, and it won't accomplish anything other than making you angrier and making your blood pressure rise. Stay away from the topic when you are around your mother; there's no sense in putting yourself through more pain than you've already endured.
2007-01-11 19:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that your mom knows this but she's acting as if she never heard about it maybe because her husband is also threatening her and your mom just doesn't want to loose her kids by disobeying the husband. if that's the case, you can't right the situation by telling it to your mom. you have to find another solution secretly, such as reporting to the authorities, or asking help from women and children's institution or something (if you have that kind like for social welfare). the abuse has to stop and it has to stop now.
2007-01-11 19:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by bReAd-WiNnEr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's in pretty obvious and heavy, heavy denial. Does she have any dirt on her face because if there was a ever a classic case of someone having her head in the sand...
2007-01-11 19:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋