What does it mean that if my husband tells me face to face that he likes to stare at other girls becuase he likes what they have so thats why he looks? and another thing my husband's ex girlfriend doesnt like me becuase I had married him and my husband talks bad about her but whenever he sees her he talks to her and be friends with her after he told me that he doesn't want to talk to her but ever now and than he will talk to me about their sexual relationship to me when they were together what does that mean when my husband tells me all this?
2007-01-11 19:04:55 · 17 answers · asked by stacy s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You husband is an idiot. Any man who openly admires other women in from of his wife and also discusses his past sexual relationship has very little respect for you feelings and enjoys making you uncomfortable and jealous. This man is selfish and wants to please only himself. Just be glad you don't have any children with this man because once that were to happen everything will get much worse. Good luck to you and I hope he staightens up or you are going to have a very unhappy life with him
2007-01-11 19:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like your husband doesn't respect you. My husband never looks at other women because he tells me everyday that I am the most beautiful woman in the world to him and that I am all he needs. As far as him telling you about his ex and their sex life, that's disrespectful also. Why would a man want to tell you what happened between him and a woman that was there before you. Maybe he wants to make you jealous, that could be why he does it but apparently it is hurting you. On top of it all he's a two faced hipocrite talking bad about his ex to you and then smiling in her face. He could be hiding the fact that he still likes her and wants you to think he can't stand her. In any event if you want all this to stop you're going to have to stand up for yourself and tell him about himself. Demand your respect because once that is gone, there's no turning back. You have to know that you're worth more and don't deserve the treatment he's showing you.
2007-01-12 03:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE - but if you can't do that...
Well then sweetie, You need to retaliate....just do it better and MORE than him.
YOU need to take a Tablespoon full of B** itch
YOU start looking at the guys .. when you see him looking then you need to scope out a better looking man than he is when he notices you looking ... you look straight at the mans zipper and "close your eyes" or "lick your lips".. you get the drift... ?
When he talks about his ex and their sexual relationships then you say.. gee I know exactly what you mean because *** and I did too. When you talk about *** it always reminds me of *****...so it's kind of like you giving me a license to steal.. then giggle...
Next time he talks to his ex-girlfriend while you are there.. interrupt them and start asking her "girl" questions like, I sure like your hair do you do it your self.. Gee where did you get that blouse it is so nice.. questions which are compliments work great.. Take over the conversation... be sure to step kind of in front of him too.. LOL like she and you are best friends.. his friend /your friend.
This should put a stop to all that noise from him...
GOOD LUCK
2007-01-12 03:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by H.O.T. Dog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means your 'husband' has not an single ounce of respect for you. That's what it means. Your description is anything BUT a husband. If you have no kids and can financially take care of yourself w/o him i'd probably leave him. You gotta ask yourself at one point, do I really want to be married to somebody who justifies staring at other woman by saying; he likes what they have. I mean, what the hell does that mean? You're suppose to be his everything, he shouldn't be oogling at other woman if he's truely in love with his wife.
If you have kids, g'luck. Call Dr. Laura or something, but, I sure as hell wouldn't be getting intimate with him.
Best Wishes, Mary
2007-01-12 03:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's lookin' for a little fire. I'd say he wants you to feel jealousy, wants to ensure that you don't become complacent in the marriage, he'd like to see you compete for him...i.e. dress hot more often, be a dynamo in bed, and do whatever you know he likes.
I'm sorry to say, your hubby is trouble. Get counseling. Don't ignore this major red flag. Don't let life pass you by. Good luck.
2007-01-12 03:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by itry007 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a man and men do this without knowing it hurts women's feelings. Mostly, he's an insensitive jackass and has the brains of a gorilla. Married men don't discuss havebeens with wives, they discuss them over a beer at a bar with other dudes.
2007-01-12 03:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by todd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband has issues, and you need to read between the lines. He tells you bad stuff about her to try and detour your mind to thinking he doesn't want anything to do with her, but if he's talking about their sex life, then something has him thinking about her sexually again. He is eventually gonna stray if not already because he has other interests in mind.
2007-01-12 03:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by jakkibluu 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Veri simple.... Tel him straight to his idiotic face that he's not the right person for your life.. Women are precious!! not be treated like this!! If he changes, stick with him.. if he still continues... out of the door he goes!!!
But if u don mind.. endure!!
2007-01-12 03:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by sUnseT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with being honest? Isn't marriage about trust and telling the truth however bad is it?
2007-01-12 03:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by r0msk1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means he's being a jackass.
how rude, I would retaliate, tell him about ur ex's sexual relationship, see if he likes it, god what an ***.
2007-01-12 03:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by ThisSongsForYou 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋